My friend B told me the other day, over coffee, that after a whole bunch of planning and talking she and her lover finally had a threesome.
“I thought it would be hot,” she said, “but actually what ended up happening was he ended up fucking with and pleasing this other lady most of the time… and I was just sitting there.”
This kind of thing happens more often than you might think. It’s hard enough to pay attention to what’s going on with one person, never mind adding a second one. It might seem rude to leave one person out and focus on the other, but it happens all the time. If you leave out the one you’re leaving with at the end of the night, your ass might end up dumped.
I know this might sound crazy, but threesomes take practice, and the more you work on them the better they’ll be. It’s important to have a sensitivity to how everyone is doing and whether everyone is having fun. It’s not that you have to have conversations and emotional check-ins like hippies would, but you do have to keep your eye on things.
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One thing you might consider: who is going to be the focus of the threesome? It can’t be everybody all the time. You might think of making one person special during the threesome and giving most of the attention to that person as a team.
If you’re two ladies, or a lady and a guy, and you want to please your man then make it about your man getting a pleasure overload. Maybe you want to bring a bro over and have your lady suck two cocks at the same time, or get double-teamed. Maybe you want to bring someone home from a bar and, as a couple, give them the ride of their life.
The combinations of sex and gender, and whatever, don’t matter. What matters is that everyone is in on the plan. If you have the energy you can all take turns, and no matter what—make it fun!
What you don’t want is to have one person sitting there, wanting to join in, but feeling like some door has closed on them.
If you do get shut out, though, hey, make the best of it. If the other two are fucking, then be brave and interject yourself back in. If some other woman is bouncing up and down on your man, then put your pussy down on his face and grind a little. Make out with the other lady while she goes up and down. If your woman is taking it, just angle in and slip your cock in her mouth. The possibilities are endless and the fun doesn’t have to stop.
Remember that having good threesomes takes practice, and it’s the best kind of practice to be having.
Also read: 6 Tips to Make the Most of Your Threesome
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