Jamie

What’s the number one reason a guy misses out on a threesome?

Hint: not rejection, lack of opportunity, age, car type, bank account, looks, or lack of interested women.

The top reason guys miss out on a threeway, or any other hot sex fantasy, is fear or insecurity about their body.

We rightly promote the beauty of women of all shapes and sizes and affirm the natural, normal variety of vaginas and breasts. But we seldom talk about guy’s body issues.

From the layouts and billboards you see, you may think you’re supposed to have a chiseled physique and a ramrod cock like a stallion. Yet the reality is that dicks are all different, and more often than not, a bit funny to look at if you think about it too much.

I often hear from guys who aren’t sure about what they’re packing. Friends and even lovers sometimes share that their penis holds them back.

Whatever your worry is about your cock, the best pathway to better sex and more sex is getting over it. Whether you worry about the size (most common fear), being cut or not cut, shape, color, your balls, or actual warts on your penis (also common), getting comfortable in your skin is the best way forward.

How to Accept and Love Your Penis… Just the Way It Is

Be realistic about penis size.

What is a penis supposed to look like? How big is it supposed to be? Get real! You certainly can’t use what you see in porn as any kind of yard stick, so to speak. And you don’t expect every woman you hook up with to have DD breasts or a bald pussy, do you? (We hope you don’t.)

Some women have preferences, but most don’t.

You will run into the odd woman who is turned off by a banana curve, just as she runs into guys who are turned off by flat nipples or chubby thighs. Move on, because the next woman won’t care. Sure, some women prefer cut or uncut, long or fat, mushroom capped or smooth tipped. But most women aren’t even thinking about things like that.

Understand that the competition also has penis anxiety.

Do you assume that the hunky playboy she last dated had an “ideal” dick, or automatically think your competition has a massive cock? Think again.

All the men she’s been with had their own insecurities. And speaking of her exes, don’t ask about their dicks.

Look at other penises.

Do some research and find out what regular penises look like. Skip the porn, and look at National Geographic, medical literature, and dick pics online from ordinary men. You’ll get the picture.

Have a sense of humor.

Whatever it is, it’s better served up with candid acceptance and a side of humor. A woman would rather you make fun of what bothers you, than try to overcompensate in a way that makes her feel uncomfortable. Make a joke about your giant mushroom cap, so you don’t have to fret about her making one.

Remember, sex is better than no sex.

Having a real penis issue instead of an imaginary one can be a tough deterrent. You may wonder who wants to get with a guy with herpes. Do any women fantasize about small dicks? Do women feel satisfied when you come after thirty seconds, or can’t always get it up because you’re sixty-four?

Whatever your issue is, have some empathy for yourself and your little friend. Sex is a human need, even if there are obstacles like warts! You may have to be more open, or find someone specific who has needs of her own, to make it work. Some women have herpes too, so find her. Or maybe being an attentive man means she doesn’t care about your micropenis.

Know that women worry too.

We worry about fat, stretch marks, pores, flab, gravity, nipples, our pussy lips, tightness, wetness, smell… need I go on? Women are more accepting of men’s bodies overall, than the other way around, because we do worry so much.

Work towards penis acceptance.

Most of these issues are totally out of your control, period. So there’s only one thing left—learn to accept it, or spend the rest of your sex life feeling sorry for yourself. Sexual confidence has a lot more to do with how you feel than how you look.

Do you have penis insecurities? How do you get over them?