Sometimes when planning and experimenting with threesomes or foursomes or orgies things just get… extreme.
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And it all needs to slow down.
So please: Look around. Breathe. Chill. Process.
Now remember this: Not everyone needs to know every single detail that exists between each other, it’s true.
And it’s not about selective honesty or deceptive truth… it’s about really communicating all that is relevant to all that is connected.
There are some poly connections where a few things are shared that are not exactly shared with other people. And it’s okay. That is human nature to a degree, and I think people accept it. We speak to our closest friends and lovers with special words.
We don’t have the exact same conversations with everyone, even if we are all connected to each other.
And what if we are to have intimate connections with the same people?
What do we all share, verbally? When? Why? And why not?
These are important issues to understand if you want to have peace in your threesomes and poly sex adventures, please believe it.
Sometimes, some people will learn things that other people might not end up understanding. I accept it as a part of my destiny!
I also accept it as a part of my destiny that women will have conversations about me that I’ll NEVER know or hear the details of!
If these women have sex with me, then hey, I will know a few things that we all share, yes, and this is cool… but I know I won’t know it all.
That’s just a fact.
And it will probably go all the way around. I will say some things to one lover that I won’t say to the other lover, and vice versa. Ultimately we all will share a LOT of conversation that we all contribute to and communicate in that creates all the bonds and basic foundation for joy.
The things that matter the most will be maturely discussed and dealt with accordingly, and the things that matter the least will assume their place.
And the boundaries that need to be made will be made together, even though there will be decisions that people will make individually. The reasons why people will or won’t do certain things in an intimate encounter don’t matter, and privacy is to be respected to the utmost.
But any hard boundaries that need to be made can be made publicly or privately, and they are simply to be obeyed by all people present.
This is a non-negotiable guideline, and if it sounds vague, I want it to apply to as many sexual scenarios as possible.
If you’re in a threesome, and you notice a specific certain something not happening… it’s better to accept it, than to try and force it.
This is wisdom from experience, and that’s where I will end this suggestion for your sexual protection.
In blessings,
Addi Stewart
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