When should you bring up the threesome conversation with your girlfriend?
There are three times that are best for bringing up the three-way question. They are simple and selective but really all you need to know about timing.
After exploring HER fantasies in other conversations, and in the bedroom.
It’s a good idea to have “the talk” AFTER you’ve already talked about what you both want out of sex, what your past experiences and wishful future adventures look like.
If you haven’t taken the time to find out what your girlfriend’s needs and desires are, and you bring up yours, it’s not going to go over very well.
You’ll have a better idea if she’s open to or wants group scenes, if she loves going to bed with other girls, if she gets off on the idea of being watched while getting fucked by someone else, or if she fantasizes about watching you stick your hot poker into a wet pussy.
Even if she’s a wildcat and gymnast when you’re together, she might want to keep that between the two of you. Pay attention to figure out the odds and what adventure or fantasy might provide the right segue to the threesome talk.
When she’s ovulating.
Say what?
I could be struck down for giving any kind of credence to biological determinism… but if you’re trying to work the odds for the best outcome, it would be lying to leave out a little fact of life about hormones and horniness.
When a woman is at her most fertile time of the month, the rise in estradiol and other sex hormones can take her desire over the top. Some women are more open to new experiences, new partners, new positions, and have more orgasms. They can be more likely to want extra horny experiences.
All that said, in full disclosure this one can backfire. Some women are hornier but also choosier—also a function of biology. The body is sending every signal to its owner and the guys lining up for sex, and yet the increased risk of pregnancy means some women are more cautious about who that might be. They can be more likely to go for what’s at home, since he’s already been tested for staying power… or for guys who are richer and healthier.
When a threesome is her idea.
This is the gold standard, the prize, the holy grail of all threesome conversations—the one that is the best case scenario, the most hoped for and sought after.
Some guys get lucky, and the girlfriend is the one who brings it up. These guys have not only the easiest path to the threesome, but the best threesome with the least amount of drama after.
Lots of women have threesomes or want to try one. Lots of women see the threeway as a the best way to indulge their bi-curious side. If you’re lucky enough to be with this woman, enjoy!
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