My girlfriend and I like having threeways, and we get a lot of messages of inquiry online.
Meet sexy singles and couples now at FindaThreesome.com!
Here are two first messages sent by men who were interested in hooking up with us.
“I’d love to fuck your hot little twat and it would be okay if your girlfriend sucked my dick though she should lose some weight before we hook up. I wouldn’t mind if you’d wear a bit more makeup too.”
This one was just as bad, for different reasons.
“I’d always begged my wife to have a threesome but our marriage got off to a rocky start because I cheated on her with two of her college friends. She didn’t think sleeping with other people would help our intimacy problems, and she blamed me for ruining her friendships.
She finally forgave me, and now I’m free for threesome hookups. I’d really love to be your third one afternoon. You and your girlfriend are both really cute. Even if you just want someone to talk to about your problems, I’m here for you.”
Guess which one we invited over?
Neither!
I want to thank Message 1 for making it crystal clear that he’s a crude, closed-minded, selfish boor—I didn’t have to waste any time at all responding or meeting.
And the sender for Message 2 needs to see a psychiatrist—that’s way too much personal information, with zero insight into why it’s not appropriate to a) cheat on your wife with her friends and then complain she wasn’t cool with it, and b) to tell a complete stranger all your problems and then ask to hear about hers.
First Message Missteps to Avoid when Looking for a Threesome
Don’t act like it’s all about you.
You want to say something about yourself and what you’re looking for, of course, but show that you actually looked at the profile of the human being you are addressing.
There’s a fine line between highlighting your assets and bragging.
Don’t use form letters.
I don’t want the same message you’ve sent to every other woman or couple on the site.
Sure, no-strings-attached hookups don’t require we share as much of our souls as dating with long-term relationships in mind, but we’re all human beings. If I was looking for a kinky threeway with a machine or robot, I’d pull one of my devices out from under the bed and get to it.
Don’t give off a desperate vibe.
I actually get first messages that say stuff like, “Please, no one is answering me and I really want to do this.”
If you aren’t getting responses, take a look at how you package yourself and phrase your messages. Developing communication skills and addressing personality problems will increase your chances!
Don’t bully, be pushy, nag, beg or whine.
If you come off too aggressive or too passive aggressive, it’s pretty clear that you’ll be either dangerous, or too much work.
I know sometimes a nice guy can come across as a jerk because he is trying to edit out nervousness, but it comes off as pushy or demanding. And I know sometimes a guy is really turned on and hopeful and he might be kind of sweet, but whining and nagging make him sound like he can’t grasp boundaries.
Make sure you’re careful with first messages, that they reflect you accurately. We assume that they do, and if they’re screaming with red flags, you won’t hear back from us.
Have you received some crazy first messages? Share them!
Tell us what you think