You might be surprised to find out that there are lots of women looking for adventure with couples.
There are many benefits to being a third or a unicorn, whether as a long-term triad relationship or as a casual affair for fun sex.
Where Can You Meet Her?
Use threesome dating sites.
Your best bet in finding a woman looking for a couple is on dating sites. There are lots of threesome online sites—CouplesDating.com and FindaThreesome.com— with couples and single men, women, or trans people looking for casual sex and long-term relationships.
Socialize in the polyamory community.
It makes sense to be involved with communities of like-minded people. Maybe you don’t call yourselves polyamorous, or maybe you’ve never dated outside of each other before or had a threesome yet together, but if you’re looking for women looking to meet couples, one safe bet is to meet polyamorous people.
There are various poly events that are sexual in nature, like kinky fetish or swingers’ parties. Try those if you’re game! But there are also meet ups, munches, sports, happy hours, and more.
Think about attractive women you know who never seem to date anyone seriously.
Sometimes sexually adventurous women who love hooking up are hiding in plain sight. This woman might appear to be “single” because she isn’t announcing the fact that she prefers dating multiple lovers on her own terms—it’s called discretion.
You might assume a woman who has never mentioned a boyfriend isn’t dating at all, and you’re probably wrong. Although I’m pretty open everywhere about being poly and my love of dating, lots of women simply don’t mention their preferences to family, casual friends, and workmates.
Go where bisexual women go.
Let me just clarify that not all bisexual women want to have a threesome, or want to date men and women at the same time. Many bisexual women have only ever dated women or only dated men, and have never acted on their feelings. Others are monogamous with a partner and their attraction to anyone else is irrelevant. Some bisexual women are celibate. Some are not interested in group sex or polyamorous relationships.
That said, it’s much more difficult for a couple to date a woman who is super straight or who is lesbian. After all, the woman who is looking for a couple will have to have at least some desire for both men and women.
Ask around and keep your eyes open.
You probably won’t find a specifically “bisexual” restaurant, baseball team, or square-dance night. But you’ll notice that certain locations attract demographics that feel comfortable in their establishment. There might also be events like a concert or a protest.
You probably won’t talk about sex or hook up right after the fish ‘n’ chips or singalong, but if you’re looking for a long-term kind of unicorn, getting to know people who are eligible and looking for the same thing is a no brainer.
Pay attention to who has eyes for your wife.
Another avenue that couples can explore is focusing on women who flirt with your wife or girlfriend. If she’s out and about with friends and finds that sparks are flying, you might be halfway there!
Instead of her saying, “I’m flattered, but I’m married/in a relationship,” use the opportunity to share the fact that she and her partner are, in fact, looking for a girl to date together.
Do you have any tips that have worked for you and your partner? Please share!
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