Couples Advice

When Couples Want a Different Threesome

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Usually, the only mismatch about couples and threesomes is that one party wants to have them and the other doesn’t! But there are all kinds of possible snags along the way even when the light has turned green.

Maybe the missus is more interested in exploring what she doesn’t get at home by inviting another woman in, but you just can’t stop thinking about watching your wife getting fucked by another man.

Or maybe the two of you can’t agree on whether a good friend or a sexy stranger are better bets.

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But what happens when you aren’t excited by the same personality and physical profile? How do you make it work if you’re not just not that into the same people?

I ran into this problem myself a couple of times. In the latest, since he was  dating me, it was no surprise that my boyfriend was into athletic, natural-faced, sporty brunettes. But as we set about searching through online dating profiles to find the woman of our dreams, I had to tell him I really didn’t want a threesome with someone who could be my sister.

I was most drawn to voluptuous vixens with curves galore and gorgeous, cushiony thighs and breasts. I was drawn to women who were downright old-fashioned in their attention to feminine details, women who wore dresses and pantyhose and did a lot more with their hair than throw it back in a ponytail like I usually do.

It was tough, but let’s face it, it’s a problem more people wish they had!

How to Please Both Partners when Choosing a Third

The reluctant party gets to pick. Maybe both of you desire a three-way to the exact same degree, in the same way. But often, one partner has some misgivings but is willing to indulge his lover. So, if you’re really doing it for her, it makes sense to me that the third party should be someone that is most attractive to you.     

Be flexible. Indulging your lover’s taste is a great way to assure her that relationships are about giving, supporting, and trying new things together. Consider it an opportunity to experiment beyond the limits of your own tried and true fantasies.

Tips for Picking Up a Third for a Threesome

Compromise. Maybe one of you can choose the gender or the general description or some attributes of the playmate, and the other decides from the pool of interested candidates which one it will actually be.

Take turns. This is the best option, especially if steamy three-ways are something you both want to have often. She chooses this time, you choose next time, rinse, and repeat!

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