A threesome is one of the most popular sex fantasies out there, for men, women, and non-binary lovers alike. So why haven’t you had one?
Here are the most common reasons it hasn’t happened.
6 Reasons You Haven’t Had a Threesome… Yet
1. It’s pure fantasy.
Not everyone wants to mix up real life with their sexy daydreams. Fantasizing makes masturbation and sex hot and healthy, but lots of guys are happy to keep the realms of their imagination separate from actual sex.
Knowing it isn’t expected in real time can make our fantasy lives much more liberated. For example, most people fantasize about someone other than their current partner, but that doesn’t mean they want to pursue other lovers, even if they are polyamorous and free to do so.
Lots of women have rape fantasies that they don’t “really” want.
Sharing threesome fantasies with your lady can be sizzling without the complications of it coming true.
2. You’re in a monogamous marriage or relationship.
Lots of married people are polyamorous, have group-sex adventures, or practice swinging. But lots of couples have committed to intimacy only with each other. It stands to reason that if you both committed to monogamy, you’re not going to play with others.
3. You falsely assume that threesomes are only for younger or hotter or richer people.
Sometimes the only thing standing in between you and your threeway fantasies is the limitation you’ve imposed on yourself because of a false idea.
If you think amazing fantasy sex can only happen to guys who are twenty-one, you’re choosing your fate.
Take a look around you at the spectrum of shapes, sizes, ages and styles of people out there, and think about the fact that the vast majority of human beings are sexual beings.
4. Your insecurities are the only thing standing between you and a threeway.
The false beliefs about who gets to have wild sex coupled with your own lack of confidence may be the only thing keeping you from a threesome. If you’re waiting to look a certain way before going after what you want, you might be disappointed to find things don’t change when you reach your fitness goals or get that hair implant.
Far better than gambling on whether more babes will call if you just had more hair or a sexier car is a bit of confidence. Start pursuing your desires now, with a realistic approach and your mind focused on what you have to offer, not on what you don’t.
5. You’re waiting to win the lottery.
If you think you just haven’t been in the right place at the right time, or that the likelihood of two bikini-clad blondes approaching you and begging for it are about nil, you’re probably right. Threesomes can happen spontaneously, but more often than not, they’re something that YOU make happen.
Get online and start connecting with like-minded people who are looking for the same thing you are.
6. She’s just not that into it.
Lots of women relate best sexually one on one, and if that’s where she’s at, and you’re with her, respect it. But don’t assume that’s how all women feel. A threesome is a common desire for many women, and lots of us love to play with other women but find it feels incomplete to date women one on one.
The solution is obvious and common—a threesome where we can explore each other and get the cock we crave. What are you waiting for? Ask her!
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