“Diane” is a 39-year-old woman in an open relationship where threesomes are business as usual. She agreed to speak openly to us about her experiences.
Noah: Did you always want to have 3sum sex? How old were you when you first started considering it? How old were you when you first had one? Tell all, tell please!
Diane: I honestly can’t remember ever yearning for a threesome when I was young. In the first few years with my primary partner (so, I was probably 23 or 24), we got into all kinds of sexual adventures, like sex parties and group sex. It was clear I had an insatiable desire for as much cock as possible! (note: She still blushed when she said it.) We organized my first threesome with a male friend of ours, just for me to try out the experience of enjoying more than one at a time and to try being shish-kabobbed.
N: So your first 3sum wasn’t impromptu?
D: I’ve never had an impromptu threesome. They’ve all been pre-arranged. Actually, that’s not true! I had a spontaneous threesome at a sex party with two dudes and a slave on the sidelines. How could I have forgotten that?!
N: Do you have a preference between arranging a 3sum with familiar partners and finding partners online?
D: I’ve only ever had threesomes with people I know. Some were with friends or people I knew from either the fetish or sex-party scene, but most were other lovers. I’ve never done any group sex advertising.
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N: How do you go about organizing a 3sum?
D: Usually I send an email around with an invitation for a specific desire or fantasy to be explored. Then it’s just the logistics of finding a time when everyone can meet—which is the hardest part!
N: Do you prefer group sex to one-on-one?
D: One-on-one, hands down! Group sex is a fun treat because I’m a greedy bottom, but I don’t find it nearly as intense, or intimate, or specific to my desires as what my favorite peeps can do in a one-one-one.
N: What’s your favorite 3sum combo—FFM, MMF, FFF? Confess, please.
D: MMF. Then FFM. Not so into FFF.
N: What’s your fave role to play?
D: Greedy bottom slut!
N: How important are toys during group sex?
D: Toys are great because everyone can get off as many times as they want, but I guess it depends on the fantasy. My fantasies are always about getting off a lot.
N: Do you prepare a checklist of things to do, or do you make it up as you go?
D: I usually go in with an idea or two of what I’d like to try, but I find it rarely turns out as planned. My expectations are usually exceeded, though, even if the scene is very different than I intended.
In part 2, Diane talks about safe sex, good and bad 3sums, and offers advice for newbies.
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