I had a threesome recently that revealed very interesting things about trust. It was with a male friend of mine who I’ve had erotic encounters with before. They were fun and surprisingly inviting situations that I’ve found no problem in returning to, and re-exploring with him.
I don’t normally feel that way with men, but lo and behold, this guy got his shit together. We’ve had a little fun, and even have pictures to show for it! Good times, captured on camera. So yeah, chance favored the bold, and when I was invited to another threesome with him and his lady friend, I was like, “Sure!”
Alas, I learned quickly that not all threesomes are equal. He said she was experienced in kink and was ready to do things together, so I was open to her. I liked him and he liked her, so I thought, hey I should like her. When she showed up, I did like her! But…
She didn’t… trust me. Not quite yet.
When we started to play, things were kinda fun and kinda connected, but there was a distance between her and I that I could feel. We were both naked, roped up, and under his control for the domination scene he was conducting, but we were not in the same subspace.
I could feel her movement and avoidance from me, emotionally and erotically. She just didn’t trust me yet. So after a few moments of me letting her get comfortable, and feel her way through the scene with her first partner, I just stepped back from the fun.
A few moments later, she said, “I gotta mention this, I’m not feeling fully connected…”
I said, “I know… but I promise you, I won’t break your trust.” I said a few more things to her to open up myself to her experience and privacy, to show her that I was sharing just as much as she was, and that she could trust me. After that moment, she felt connected to me, and the role playing got more spicy!
It took some sensitivity though. Not everyone could tell. Not everyone would see. Not everyone might care. I know I did though. I’m not just in it for me! That doesn’t work in a threesome. It will fail.
From that point on, things were totally different. I could feel her vibing with me. We knelt on a bench together while our naked asses got flogged and caned! Few things will unite you with another person than being smacked on the ass with the same kinky toys by the same dominant’s hand! Trust me on that one, my good friend.
More good threesome history was then made that day. Kink kink hooray!
Sincerely yours,
Addi Stewart
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