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Givers vs. Takers in Threesomes

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You know those habits you have, that you love as much as you hate? (Cigarette smokers know what the fuck I’m talmbout… crackheads too!

Welp, there is one that my head does, that bothers me a bit to be so reductionist and basic like the world is so simple to break down, but… I do it anyways, and I fucking LOVE IT, ha ha ha.

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When I get frustrated, I just reduce the universe to an either/or equation, and say FUCK THE REST. It feels sooo good! How do I do it?

Just say that “the world is made up of two kinds of people: this kind and that kind. There’s nothing else, and if you think so… fuck that shit, yo!”

Ha ha ha. It feels great to become the next Plato, Socrates, Akhenaten, Imhotep, Confucius or Einstein, and solve everything in reality. And in the realm of sex, it feels even better, since sex is so fucking confouding and mysterious in so many ways. So, one way I like to answer everything in the realm of sex, is to say “the world is made up of two kinds of people: sexual givers and sexual takers. That’s fucking IT, baby.”

And even though a lot of overlap exists, basically I would reduce the whole god damn erotic jungle to these two basic types of creatures at the end of a day of fucking and sucking each other. Some people want to receive more than give, and some people want to give more than receive.

When the two perfect polarities of such are connected, then boo-ya! Blissville: population: YOU! The circle of life is complete, and yin feeds yang while yang feeds yin. Yippie-ki-yay, motherfuckers, balance is achieved. Let your energy flow, let the fun commence, let the good times roll!

But when you’re in a threesome, it’s DIFFERENT. Being in a threesome with a giver and a taker is a very intriguing and complicated experience. One body is doing one thing most of the time, and the other is doing the opposite. To find an equilibrium and still reach your happy place is a challenge in this scenario.

One person is wanting attention for most of the time, and the other is giving affection… and sometimes, they aren’t interacting with each other because they are cancelling each other out by being too opposed to the intentions of the other! Givers often play well with givers when they have the same focus for affection (super-hot porno scenes with five girls on one lucky guy, for instance), and takers play well with takers when they have the same focus for affection (which is why lots of guys love gangbangs and “running trains”… such is life.)

I speak as someone who is both a giver and a taker, so there’s that too. But if you know what kind of love language you behave with, then adjust yourself accordingly when you’re in shifting situations in your sexual scenarios in life, please and thank you. There’s so much fun to be had by being generous at the right times, and greedy when it’s right to be!

Mwaah,
Addi Stewart

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