You ever been to a place that you had always dreamed about, always heard good things about, always wanted to experience… but when you finally get there and feel it all, you think it isn’t how you imagined it would be?
Sometimes we exaggerate things in our mind, before they happen. There are times and places you are not privy to knowing the secret mystery about, and there’s no way you can know until you go through it. This is exactly the truth with some beautiful people and things in this world too!
Not everyone sexy and cute will have good chemistry with you, or smell and taste how you dream they will. Not everyone who you have a crush on will reciprocate that crush—that’s a GUARANTEE that you will have to deal with at least once in life. And finally, not every single sex fantasy you have will be as happy as you want it to be when you’re walking away from the scene of the crime of passion.
Sometimes, a threesome will not be that good. And when that happens, you have to just grin and bear it. You have to think, I’m glad it happened anyways, and I’ve learned to not place so many expectations on things in my head and heart. If you can do that, you will be in a much better position to not get discouraged and depressed if things don’t go as planned or imagined in the future.
I just had a threesome experience that was quite educational. I had a sexy romp with people who I’d wanted to get with for some time. I was jazzed for this hookup. We all shared good energy and conversation beforehand, and I felt positive about it. But things weren’t perfect. They never are. (I had LONG-standing anticipation that I was trying to not think about, but the body sometimes operates separate from the mind, and one’s best intentions are not always what manifests in the moment of truth.)
In the middle of this sexy event, I was just not connecting very well with ONE of the people. I had good vibes with the others, and we were all having fun in various ways and means. I was pleased to kiss everyone in the room, and I was honored to see so much sexual sharing of energy.
But between myself and one person, the flames of hope were not firing as high as my wet dreams for this person were normally flying. I was disappointed in myself, but didn’t make a big deal about it. We all kept playing around, and lo and behold, I ended up doing something that I’d never done before in my life, and then two other things I’d never done with a woman and another man in a threesome. It was amazing!
I’m going to honor my magic moment by not spilling the beans, but you can imagine all you want… and I will not deny your most succulent thoughts and fantasies! I just made the most of a nebulous situation. Which is what I suggest ALL you people do if you find yourself not feeling 100% in a fantasy scenario. Shit happens to the best of us!
Keep it moving, and do what you can next time you can. It’s still fun to get together, even if you didn’t end up doing exactly everything you dreamed of. You still had a threesome, and you can learn from every intimate moment!
Truly,
Addi Stewart
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