In my experience, there are two types of guys when it comes to threesomes and anal play: one who wants to experiment and knows how great it feels, and the other who refuses to go there, thinking it will either hurt too much, won’t feel good, or means they are gay.
In my experience, the second group is really the first group—they just don’t know it yet!
If you haven’t yet discovered how amazing ass play ON YOU can feel, maybe you should consider saying yay instead of nay the next time your threesome ladies ask to peg you. And if your wife wants to watch you get nailed by her boyfriend and your automatic answer is no way, consider changing your mind. A whole new world of pleasure awaits.
Your anus is filled with nerve endings. The taboo or newness of it all is also a huge turn on—exploring new territory means new experiences and new, unfamiliar sensations. Finally, when you’re the one getting fucked, the dynamics of sex can totally change and you can enjoy the power play, the surrender, or just watching your date get turned on being the one in charge.
There are three main fears or worries involved for men about receiving anal sex for the first time.
3 Anal Sex Fears of Men
1. My Ass Won’t Be Clean
This is my worry too when having anal sex. Some will tell you that the butt is actually clean as a whistle if it’s not ready to unload, but we all know there are traces of the stuff we want to avoid, either visible or just at a bacterial level.
And there’s the key: we all know it. I’m well aware when I’m putting a dildo in your ass that it’s your ass. I know what I might come across.
To best address this issue, do some obvious basics and then let it go. First, clean yourself thoroughly beforehand with soap and water. And use condoms. You can use a condom on a dildo, a strap-on, a finger, and on other dicks. Any unwanted encounter can easily be peeled off and flung away.
2. Pain! “Don’t Worry, This Won’t Hurt a Bit.”
Actually it might, but the pain factor is a huge turn on for many. The anticipation and anxiety turn into ecstasy once that seal is broken, you might say.
Once you have learned how to relax, how slow you need to go, and how to receive a dildo or cock, it won’t hurt. But most newcomers will experience some discomfort at first.
Make sure you trust your partners and communicate with them. Start with a finger, not a massive dildo. Play with a small butt plug on your own or together—these can be the size of a pinky finger, and they’re flared at the bottom so they won’t get lost. It feels amazing to be penetrated, and you’ll want bigger and more soon after.
3. Being Penetrated Means I’m Not a Man, or I’m Gay
There’s a lot of unnecessary social baggage attached to your butt for some reason. All straight men have butts last time I checked.
Experimenting in a threesome with a man in an MMF doesn’t mean you’re gay. It’s hot for most men to fantasize about watching a woman get fucked by another man. It’s hot for your female partner to watch two hot men get it on.
So there it is… the three big fears of anal, reduced to dust. Sit back, baby, and enjoy the ride!
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