Threesomes are sweet fun! They are the first Holy Grail of Sex. People are like “Sex with myself is fun. Sex with one other person is even more fun! Sex with two other people would be even MORE FUN!” And you know what? They are absolutely right. Threesomes are amazing… if you are aware of how good things are, and are not messing around with the little things that make a good threesome matter so much, like focus, concern, observation, patience, presence, and passion.
3 Tips to Make a Threesome Successful
1. Balance the Beauty
Talk to each other before it starts, as much as communication is allowed, able and intended. Determine each other’s boundaries and intentions. Everyone involved. Have an idea how much or little fun everyone wants to feel. Know how you feel about it, whether you’re nervous, excited, or nervously excited, if not a dozen other feelings that are okay.
When you get to the time and place of sexual connection: BALANCE THE BEAUTY YOU SHARE TOGETHER! Aim for everyone being satisfied. Whether everyone wants orgasms, or to fuck for an hour and then just to be held for ten minutes, or for most of the attention to be given to the birthday lover, or try to keep a similar amount of eye contact and kissing with everyone involved, and do try to follow the flow of natural energy and connection between all three of you.
Serve everyone’s needs, instead of only your dreamy greed, and you should be on the safe side of having a threesome that nobody regrets having, and possibly considers having again! Which is kinda the goal: more the first half, as in “I regret nothing about that beautiful tryst,” and not as much “let’s do that again tomorrow night,” which is wonderful if it naturally comes to be… but try not to force it. Awareness is the line between force and strength. Balance being beautiful to everyone in the threesome, and you’re good to go!
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2. Don’t Get Lost in Your Imagination
Live. In. The. Moment… Stay. In. The. Moment… Be. In. The. Moment!
How many times do I have to ask you? Please don’t start worrying about what the neighbors are gonna say tomorrow… WHILE WE’RE ALL NAKED IN THIS BED TONIGHT! Don’t start thinking about the next threesome when you’re still in this threesome. Don’t start thinking about what parts of this scenario you’re going to brag about at work on Monday morning. Don’t start excessively dreaming of your favorite porn star and trying to be them in your scene here and now. Don’t start drifting off into last week or next week because you’re afraid to look this moment in the eye.
If you’re going to have a threesome: HAVE THE ENTIRE EXPERIENCE. Appreciate the conversations while clothes are coming off. Appreciate the first stages of connection and exploration. Appreciate the escalation of energy, intimacy and sexuality. Appreciate the first orgasm, the second, the third, appreciate everyone or no one having an orgasm. Appreciate doing none, half, or all of the things you thought you were going to to do.
And appreciate everyone for showing up and getting naked together! There are lots of people who will never experience a threesome in their lives, not that its a bad or good thing, it’s just a fact. So congratulations on taking the leap of faith together! Make sure you all kiss and hug each other at the end, if you can.
3. Don’t Break the Illusion of Beautiful Balance by Talking about the Fun You Found in your Imagination after It Happened!
That’s just a fancy way of saying the first, second, and third rule of Threesome Club is: YOU DO NOT TALK ABOUT YOUR THREESOME IF YOU’RE NOT ALLOWED TO TALK ABOUT YOUR THREESOME! Sometimes it’s okay to tell some people about your awesome Saturday night adventure, no one has anything to hide.
But other times, when it is requested to stay silent: OBEY THE LAW OF LOVE. There is nothing worse than talking about some scenario to someone who doesn’t need to know. Just keep it tucked away in your heart and keep the trust and dignity of the people you frolicked naked with. Just be the good person.
And if you can do all that, you probably will have a long life full of many lovely threesomes… if you simply ask the people who are looking to feel the same fun experiences in sex and love!
Word to John Ritter: three’s company too…
Kiss kiss kiss,
Addi Stewart
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