Condoms—they are literally lifesavers. They give men and women freedom to enjoy sex with a greatly reduced risk of pregnancy. And they are more effective than any other tool we know in helping everyone avoid sexually transmitted diseases.
Still, no one loves condoms. They get in the way. The barrier that protects us can diminish sensation. And it’s inconvenient for versatility between hands, mouth, and penetration during sex. When it comes to threesomes, you might feel like all you’re doing is taking condoms on and off, and not much of anything else.
3 Ways to Make the Most of Condoms in Threesomes
1. Change Your Attitude
If you’re dreading the reach to the bedside drawer, you’re not going to enjoy yourself as much. And any problems the condom contributes to—losing your erection, etc—will be magnified by your trepidation. The condom is non-negotiable and allows a lot more sensation than not having a threesome at all, so try to be thankful to your rubber friend for saving your life and protecting the ladies you love to sleep with.
If you have a positive attitude about condoms, you will weather their downfalls and pitfalls with more humor instead of letting a mishap or inconvenience bring you down.
2. Expand Your Sexual Repertoire
A threesome is a time to explore, imagine, experiment, and enjoy a wide variety of scenes and sensuality, so don’t make penis-in-vagina or ass the main course every time. You want to get your dick into every hole on deck, I get it. But what’s the hurry? Take your time getting there. Have fun with role plays, long sensuous pussy licking sessions, fingering, watching, or the thrill of the mailman sucking your dick while your wife fucks herself with a giant dildo.
When the only thing on the menu is straight-up fucking, you’re more dependent on condoms. That’s great, but foreplay, play, and after play don’t always need a rubber.
3. Bring Your Play Partners to the Local Sex Shop
Why not have a little anticipatory fun with your lovers before the hot date, and stop in a sex-toy supermarket? See what kind of fun you can add to the safe-sex standards. I didn’t always see a need for flavored condoms, for example—who sucks cock in latex? Then I learned that one of my main squeezes has HPV. We aren’t taking any chances, so we had to adjust to blowjobs in condoms or skip it altogether.
Turns out a little strawberry sauce or honey dip can make things more cheerful. Pick up little treats like feathers, dusting powder, condoms that get warm, and vanilla lube. Think of safe sex as a playground instead of a prison.
How do you incorporate condoms into a threesome, without ruining the mood?
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