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4 Tips for Using Polyamory to Find a Threesome

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We all know that being a polyamorous person sets you up nicely for a threesome. You’re already dealing with multiple partners, so it’s more or less a matter of converging certain streams in your life. This is kind of like the sexual equivalent of conserving water. A single shower goes a lot further if there are more people standing in the tub together.

That said, polyamory and threesomes are not exactly the same thing. You can have multiple partners who accept that you divide your attention, but they may not necessarily want to hook up with each other. This would be what you might call the Mormon model: each wife has her own house, and you visit each on a different day of the week.

How to Get Everyone in Bed Together

1. Invite Non-Poly People to Join You

People, outsiders I mean, are intrigued by the polyamorous life. Rather than converging the stream of your lovers, you can take advantage of the natural curiosity of these outsiders and invite them to join in the fun with one of your partners. It will obviously be a short-term affair, as opposed to an ongoing thing, but it will help to circumvent the natural jealousy and protectiveness that grows between spouses in a polyamorous marriage.

2. Attract Women who Are Poly Curious

The more lovers you already have, the more likely you are to attract new lovers. People are going to be curious as to what your appeal is, since so many ladies are already interested in the goods. Interest, in every sense of the word, is a thing that accrues as you broaden your asset base. A man with no women is not so attractive. A man with one is sexy. And a man with many is fascinating and dangerous.

3. Speak Openly about Your Sexuality and Interest

Another perk is that you are already practiced in the art of opening up the subject of your sexuality, and its broad boundaries. This makes the conversation more natural and interesting, and less creepy or awkward. Regardless of whether the person decides to join you in a threesome, they will at least understand this this is just your lifestyle and your way of communicating.

4. Expand on the Trust You already Have with Partners

Having a built-in partner (or number of partners) acts as a buffer zone for another person’s comfort. You are inviting someone who may have doubts about your character into a situation that has a bit of stability. The fact that there is already at least one woman or maybe a few who trust you makes you seem more trustworthy, and this will up your chances of having a threesome.

The whole matter is complex but if you apply yourself, good things just might happen!

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