Sex should start long before any clothes have been removed, so don’t make the mistake of skipping the undressing. The added tension and anticipation will take your desire to the next level, even if you’ve seen your partners naked a million times. By holding back, everyone’s sexual arousal is amplified by the delicious torture of waiting.
6 Tips to Undress Your Lovers
1. Get Things Started before You Get to the Bedroom
If no one is sure how to get things going, things might start with everyone emerging from the bathroom already undressed. Make sure the romance starts when the clothes are still on—it’s a more natural segue to sex and will amp up the sensual flow.
Kick things off at the bar, or in the living room, by touching each other. Rub backs or kiss necks. Ask your partners to kiss each other while you watch.
2. Appreciate the Look
You can make sex more amazing with one simple trick: notice your lovers’ clothing.
Whether they’re casual in jeans and Converse, or all-out Old Hollywood drama in stockings and a faux-fox shrug—pay attention, then say something. Compliment hair, style, handbag, lipstick, shoes, or perfume.
Once you notice and mention it, it’s natural to move your hand or mouth towards that focus point. You might kiss those red lips, or give a casual squeeze to her upper thigh in those painted-on jeans. You might unbutton her cashmere cardigan, or untie her scarf while you compliment her taste.
3. Treat Your Lovers to Lingerie
If you want to undress women and find frilly, lacy underthings, indulge your lovers with lingerie.
“Lingerie” comes from the old French word “linge,” meaning “linen.” But I always thought it meant “to linger!” That’s because pretty lingerie is a barrier between clothed and naked, a place to stop and smell the roses.
Linger at each undergarment—bra, panties, stockings, teddy—whatever it is, taking your time before taking it off. Include that part of the body in the foreplay.
4. Take Things Nice and Easy
There are times when a threesome has to be a quickie, and there are times when a quickie is the hottest thing on earth—but for the most part, a threesome is a special occasion and shouldn’t be rushed.
There’s a time and place for ripping off her clothes, but learning how to artfully and slowly remove a woman’s clothing is a skill that will reward her, and you.
5. Don’t Get Stuck on Getting Stuck
While the art of undressing a woman is a sensual ritual, don’t get frustrated over mishaps or snags. I’ve been putting on and taking off bras now for years, and it can still be a challenge!
Some garments tie up or have hooks. Others have snaps, or stretch and pull without fasteners. You can’t know it all. Just go with the flow, and relax when you hit a snag.
6. Leave Something On
One of the sexiest scenes I’ve ever watched was my boyfriend moving our third’s panties aside with his fingers, and licking her exposed pussy. I love it when you pull your cock out of your unzipped fly and enter me with your jeans still on. And it’s equally hot when I ride you with my robe on, having you pull it open to grab my breasts while I fuck you.
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