7 Questions to Ask Couples before Joining a Threesome

Are you single and lonely? Have you met a couple who you want to join for a threesome? As more and more people choose the polyamory lifestyle, there are more opportunities for group sex encounters. Threesomes are also easier to find now with niche dating sites catering to sexually adventurous singles and couples.

Before you run over to see the married couple you met online for a mutually agreed-upon threesome, ask these questions that will help things run smoothly and free of unwanted surprises.

1. Is this a one-night-only hookup, or are you looking for something regular? This is something good to know if you’re looking for something more. There’s a big difference in just sex vs. an ongoing arrangement when it comes to emotional involvement.
2. Do you want to host, or shall I? If you’re sharing a one-bedroom with your best dude, you may want to ask if you can meet at their downtown upscale condo instead.
3. Is there anything I should bring, or have on hand? This is just common courtesy. Often couples will like to have some hang time with drinks and snacks before peeling off the layers.
4. Any boundaries or limits I should be aware of? You may be interested in just playing with his wife or girlfriend, but he may want you to give him a blowjob.
5. Are you into kink or BDSM? What exactly? We all have fantasies and desires, and some couples might be looking to fulfill these with a third. Be sure to share any you have as well.
6. Can I be guaranteed confidentiality? Discretion is often assumed when it comes to online hookups, but it’s not always respected. If your life or you require a high level of anonymity when it comes to your sex life, be sure to emphasize that.
7. What kind of protection do you use? Don’t make assumptions when it comes to safe sex. You’d be surprised how lax some people are when it comes to their health, and others’!

If you do meet a couple online, ask these ahead of time in back-and-forth messages, as some could spoil a sexy mood if asked when you’re already making out.

Of course, ask these in your own style and manner, and don’t be afraid to ask anything else you might be wondering or that is particular to your own situation. Any questions you wished that you had asked before your last threesome? Please share in the comments.