Sometimes being on the road can facilitate a liberation that one might not find if otherwise occupied with the usual complications and distractions. Once one is free from the confines of normal life, the inhibitions that go along with it seem to fall away.
How often have casual lovers parted and departed after a few drinks in a hotel lobby, someplace along the great North American highway system? This is how it goes.
In a way, traveling with your lover but being open to threesomes makes it easier. Having two people doing the flirting as opposed to one, somehow makes the entire situation feel safer. It’s easier for a man and a woman to approach another woman. Seeing a man who already has a partner makes a woman think that he must be at least marginally desirable because he already has a lady. And since he already has a lady, there’s a certain sense of safety.
Similarly, if a couple approaches another man, it might seem less bizarre. Men have different metrics for sexual encounters, of course. That’s just the way that biology and history work. With men it may have to be more of a cuckold fantasy for it to be effective. The fantasy for a man, watching two women, can be about each woman acting as en equal sexual partner. For the woman, with two men, the fantasy may be more of a power dynamic.
I feel like I’m writing out of the nineteen sixties when I say all this. Maybe because I’m typing in the middle of the night, and I can hear the keys clacking and all. Also, it’s trendy to talk about essentialism not being a thing anymore. People don’t have to be this gender or that one. Nobody is confined by the roles they have in their bodies. Their hormones and organs can be overridden by whatever they feel their gender ought to be.
I expect in a few years when the trend is over and all the legislative battles over this stuff have been rendered moot by nobody giving a shit anymore, people will read this post and say it makes sense.
Men and women approach threesomes differently. When two men and one women are involved, the power dynamic is different. Of course, there are power dynamics between women. They run deep and men are oblivious to them most of the time, but they are serious business and can last for years.
Men often think FFM threesomes are about equal desire and action, whereas women in MMF threesomes likely can see the transparent insecurity that makes the sexual aspect of it all so thrilling.
What’s your threesome preference, and why?
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