Most of the work involved in having a threesome comes when it’s just a twosome talking about having a group sex encounter. To make sure you’re ready to add one to the mix, try these tips.
Fantasize with your partner about having a threesome. Dirty talk scenarios during sex. Make it a part of your routine. It will quickly become apparent what things are sexy to which of you. The more talk, the more anticipation. Plus, sexy talk in bed builds trust, and you’ll need it to have a successful threesome.
Do it in front of a window, or in public. Try to get it on in kinky places. This will help you get in touch with your inner exhibitionist. After all, having a third person in bed means an extra set of eyes on you. Even if you never have a threesome, public sex is fun and daring!
Role play. If you aren’t ready to have a third person in your bed, then just pretend to be a different person in bed. How about being the pizza-delivery guy who gets invited in for an “extra tip.” For maximum effect, order a pizza before you show up at your own house. Role playing is great way to drop your inhibitions and get into a sexier frame of mind in your relationships.
Watch porn together. A lot of the porn out there is revolting—plastic people in hokey fuck scenes. That said, there is a lot of tasteful and artistic porn being made, meant to cater to men and women alike. Critical theorists were always split down the middle on whether porn is misogynistic or liberating. Truth is, it’s both, and finding something that gets you both off is half the fun.
Bring in the sex toys. Not only are sex accessories and props a great way to enhance any sexy scenario, they also can be used in awkward moments or when one or more participants are spent and need time to recharge. Check out the Kink Lover’s BDSM & Sex Toy Store for all your kinky needs.
Order each other lap dances or erotic massages. Get used to the idea of someone else touching your special person. Get used to the idea that sharing is hot, not evil. Get past your jealousy. After this, you’ll be threesome bound, I promise!
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