The way to overcome anxiety of any sort is exposure: the more you subject yourself to that which ails you only makes you stronger. So the most awesome way to keep your threesome jitters at bay is to have more threesomes. It really is the solution to everything!
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Until you get there, here are some tricks to take the edge off.
Plan your first threesome to include a playmate of your own rather than join someone else’s party. There’s safety in numbers.
A ready-to-wear partner may not be available, but you can meet your potentials in advance so you know what’s ahead. Choose someplace you’re comfortable with, where you can take the time you need to get to know who you’ll be getting naked with.
So much anxiety is rooted in meeting a partner for the first time. Will I like them? Will they like me? Will I find them attractive? These questions are usually answered upon that first meeting, so why on earth would you schedule that meeting minutes before the clothes fall off?
Drinks and party favors are a great way to unwind. They can also heighten the experience to the point of euphoria. Alternatively they can lower your inhibitions to the point of idiocy. I suggest you save the intoxicants until you know your playmates well. In the meantime you’ll need lucid judgement.
This one’s going to sound unappealing but it works: exercise or yoga (I favor yoga for its additional sexy moves.) Not only will these shed anxiety, they’ll fill your body with the endorphins that make sex awesome. And a workout glow is sexy to behold. Although I highly recommend avoiding injury on threesome night.
It never hurts to have a to-do list. Focusing on something you want to do (threesome positions, a trick you saw in porn) will preoccupy you with something other than your heebie-jeebies. It’ll also add an allure of confidence. Knowing what’s on the agenda can help you prepare.
In case you didn’t know, anxiety—in any situation—has a lifespan. The chemical responsible for it can’t maintain itself, and will dissipate soon enough. So take comfort knowing your nerves will settle long before the orgasms start rolling out.
But I do insist the best solution is to have more threesomes… preferably with me!
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