One thing I’ve learned that can spoil a beautiful multi-person sexual encounter between people: the unexpected arrival of a fifth wheel who is totally NOT on the same emotional or sexual wavelength as the other people participating!
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And unfortunately, I’ve learned that even if the person is a smoking hot beautiful woman or a super sexy studmuffin of a man, it doesn’t matter.
If someone comes into a threesome or foursome, and they start imposing their will and their desire into the scenario without the consent of others: JOY FAILS.
There will be repercussions and regrets, and there will be scenes that end before they need to or before other people want them to. It’s a fact and a truth.
I’ve been in way too many situations where some other person comes in who isn’t on the same emotional level or sexual spirit as everyone else. The new person is NOT trying to feel their way into the situation, but is just trying to take their own benefits from being there, or imposing their will and opinion on the actions at hand… and it’s not a pretty picture, my friends.
A new lover to group play can add an extra energy boost at times, they can add another dimension, they can even bring things to a higher level if things were calming down, or whatever whatever. But what their opinion can’t do, is make the main vibe improve.
If you are the extra person in some sexy gathering, and you come late or you come with some different criteria of engagement that drastically juxtaposes with the other people in the sexy scenario… then you are truly part of the problem at the party, instead of the soul of the solution in the situation.
Whenever I am in some group game of playing sexy-time fun, I always take it slow, and I always listen before I speak. ALWAYS. I never try to dominate.
That’s the first and fastest way to fuck things up for everyone. Seriously. Unless it’s your fucking birthday or last weekend before marriage or some other extremely eventful shit, there’s no reason for anyone to come into a foursome and assume control out of nowhere, all willy nilly and what not. WTF YO?!
Stop the madness. Sit down. Shut up. See what the mood is. Smoothly assimilate yourself into it. Don’t demand everyone listen to your new thoughts on the situation. Please and thank you, for the sake of not harshing our love buzz. Wheee…
Love,
Addi
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