Loving couples often use massage as a part of their foreplay and sexual repertoire. If you’re lucky enough to have a partner who offers massages on the regular, without having to ask, hold on tight.
What I’ve notice about group sex encounters vs. one-on-one sex is that the level of intimacy lowers most of the time. I mean, this makes sense in some ways: threesomes are about acting out a fantasy, and this fantasy is often primal and down and dirty. You’re not just lying beside someone, looking lovingly into their eyes, there’s others to pay attention to.
That said, I don’t see why you shouldn’t try to work some kind of intimacy into your threesomes. For me that means lengthening the time of foreplay. Every woman wants foreplay because it helps build the arousal almost always necessary for a good orgasm.
One of my favorite kinds of foreplay is massage. It’s an easy way to connect with partners, new and familiar, in a group setting. Use these tips to make the most of your next threesome hookup.
Create a cozy environment. If you’re hosting a threesome, you want to make sure your place says welcome and feels comfortable to all your guests. For massages, make sure to have clean sheets and towels, a warm room temperature, fluffy pillows, and relaxing music. Mood is everything.
Provide a variety of potions and lotions. You can find these anywhere from your local drugstore to the kinky sex shops downtown. Some people prefer oils, while others like myself prefer nongreasy body bars with scents like chocolate mint or coconut. Give your guests a few options.
Explore various parts of the body. Massage is a sensual way to get to know a body, and it’s also a way to make things feel less porny and more intimate.
Cater to specific needs. Most of us have aches and pains somewhere, so just ask the person you’re with if some part of their body needs a little TLC. I find a foot rub to very arousing, while another person might appreciate a deep lower back massage.
Pair off if there’s an even number. This is perfect for swinging couples who like to swap partners. With a threesome or other odd-number configurations, you can form a circle and each person can massage the person to your left, all at the same time.
Let things flow organically. The great thing about massage is that you never know where it can end up, just like those porn videos where a woman goes in to get a backrub and all of a sudden her masseuse is…
Do you incorporate massage into your group play, or do you skip this appetizer for the main course?
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