One of the most common sex complaints any of us hears is that a guy wants to experiment with a threesome, and his girlfriend or wife doesn’t.
Let me just preface all this with a disclaimer: there are PLENTY of women who enjoy sex for three, swinging, swapping, polyamory, you name it. And for all those women whose adventurous sex lives involve more than one partner at a time, there are even more who occasionally enjoy it, if the time and place is right.
That said, no matter how you slice it or which survey you read, women are consistently less likely to desire a threesome than men even if they fantasize about it, and are far less likely to want it as often.
Now, even though I’m polyamorous, promiscuous, kinky, and bisexual, I support my sisters who like sex straight up one on one. You might want to change your partner’s mind in hopes of double pussy ahead, but I’m going to suggest you do something else instead: try to understand why she doesn’t want a threesome.
Here are a few reasons a woman doesn’t want threeway sex.
She believes sex is best one on one, with a man and woman, whether for tonight or for always.
This isn’t something you can argue with. It’s a conviction about sexuality and just as valid as what anyone else wants out of sex. If you want swinging adventures, you might not be a good fit together.
That said, love and attraction seldom follow common sense. Decide what the relationship is worth, and what kind of compromise you’re willing to live with.
A lot of people I know have regretted leaving the love of their life for a fleeting high, but just as many are in unfulfilled sex lives. There’s no easy answer to this one.
She has no interest in eating pussy.
I know, impossible, right? Although many women are bicurious, bisexual, or simply love pussy for the sake of variety, it does make sense. She’s attracted to men and cocks, not vaginas.
She might be turned on by the idea of an MMF arrangement if you’re game.
The thought of you with another woman is upsetting, not hot.
We know your dick gets hard just thinking of us having sex with someone else, anyone else, or even just being a little bit naked, but the thought of seeing you giving it to another girl doesn’t make every woman wet—it makes some sick to her stomach.
She’s afraid the other woman will be more attractive.
Fair enough. I wanted an MMF threesome with this stunning Nordic god, nearly seven feet tall, rippling, with Fabio hair and almost no body hair anywhere. My boyfriend wasn’t having it, even though I explained until I was green that he was the hottest of the two of them.
She knows from experience that doing it once or twice will mean you won’t be satisfied with regular one on one sex between you.
When you get lucky with two babes in bed, be thankful and don’t bring it up again—period. That’s your best bet in getting HER to bring it up and ask for more.
The biggest turn off of all is finding out that just being naked with me isn’t worth anything and isn’t much of a turn on for you. That’s not going to help me want to get more naked and kinkier. It’s just not.
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