Every threesome fantasy is different, as are the realities. From all of my group sex experiences, I have learned a thing or two. Here’s some advice to help you navigate the murky waters of sexual triads.
Dos and Don’ts for Threesomes
Do share your fantasies with your partner. It can be hot to talk about it. Also, if you mention that you want it, and your partner reacts badly, then maybe you’re with the wrong person. There are plenty of women out there who are into open relationships.
Don’t suggest a threesome with your girlfriend’s sister. You can’t possibly talk her into it, and it will be the relationship equivalent of trying to parallel park while drunk. The car will never be quite the same after, and the cars around you will all be busted too.
Do fantasize about different people you could have threesomes with. This is sort of like playing the game of who to invite for dinner, but with higher stakes. It can make for some pretty erotic pillow talk that will turn up the heat between you and your partner.
Don’t bring somebody home if you and your partner have never talked about it. This only applies to guys bringing a woman home. If you’re female and you bring another gal home for a threesome, it will probably be fine. If you’re a female and you bring a guy home, your mileage may vary depending on how much of a cuckold you think your boyfriend might be.
Do talk about any feelings of jealousy and resentment. A person has to reconstruct their ego a little when it comes to having multiple sexual partners. A lot of issues related to self-worth and self-confidence come not from inside, but from the validation one gets from being thought of as desirable by a partner. It may be an illusion, but it’s a strong one.
Don’t let someone push you past your limits. Don’t blame yourself for feeling the way you do. If a person talks to you about their interest in threesomes and you know you have zero desire in ever trying one, don’t be afraid to voice your feelings. Your partner may be better off in a polyamory relationship.
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