So, in the olden days, especially in the Celtic regions of the world, marriages were more like short-term contracts. As opposed to “til death do us part,” people might sign on for a duration of five years, or two years, or even a single winter. After that, if things were going well, the contract could be renewed. If not, the contract would run out, and people would be free to move on to another situation.
In a lot of ways, this kind of a deal makes sense. It is romantic to keep reaffirming love, if it is there and real, and it is wise to get out if one or both parties are jaded. Too often it seems like life-long marriages are specifically designed to crush the human spirit.
Considering that all the guilt associated with the sanctity of the marriage comes from the bosom of major world religions, it isn’t surprising that the whole institution of a broken piece of crap. I mean, why would anybody want to take relationship advice from a cult of creepy old men who claim to be celibate (bad enough) but many who are actually secret child molesters (repulsive)?
Anyhow, if you did get sucked in by the supposed romance of it all, the bride magazines and all that shit, and now you are stuck, maybe you can spice things up with a threesome or two. Bring back the lust that you had in the beginning.
This is assuming your wife is still sexual at all. Lots of people turn off the taps as soon as they can after the ring goes on the finger. They dry up and sit around on their cell phones getting fat. But… if you have a lady who still seems game, then think about.
Starting by role-playing threesome fantasies, or talking about people who turn you on. You might start with movie stars or something. If you start by saying you want to fuck her sister or best friend, it could close things down fast with a jealousy issue.
Browse and join some threesome or polyamory dating sites like CouplesDating.com to meet a third or other couples interested in group sex. Or consider going to a swingers club where you can just watch at first.
Check in a lot to make sure that feelings aren’t being hurt, and that everyone is on the same page. If one person is leading the charge and the other just isn’t into it, then it could get real messy real fast.
Ultimately, if your sexual appetite isn’t being met by your circumstances, I think you should leave. It is complicated, but the right to sexual enjoyment is a human need, and you’re not at all a pervert for wanting it. I mean that. Anyone who tries to shame you for wanting to have happy sexual relations is a jerk and deserves to be alone.
Bon Chance!
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