It’s certainly true that a threesome can be a comedy or errors, or lead to disaster that sends a relationship south. Romantic comedies and sinister cinema thrillers are often based on this storyline.
But what about the ways that a threesome brings you closer together? Did you know that for many couples, enjoying occasional threeways provides spice and variety that brings them more deeply together.
There are many reasons a threesome can be good for your long-term relationship.
You are sharing an epic adventure together.
New experiences build memories, whether an amazing travel adventure, taking up a new hobby together, or hosting a dinner party and learning to cook new recipes.
New sexual experiences together provide adventure and occasions that build anticipation. Moving through your fears and learning to communicate your desires with each other are part of the adventure.
Bonding happens when couples have their own special secrets.
When you go on vacation with your girlfriend, you bring back pictures to show the folks next time you’re there for supper. All your mates at work know you went on a wildlife safari and saw zebras, or that you got travel flu and spent half of your time in Cuba in the hotel bathroom.
But the ins and outs of your sex life are private. You might mention how hot your gal is in the sack, and she might tell her girlfriends that you both love to do it all night, but the details are probably vague.
The vulnerability and bonding that happen when couples share sexual secrets with each other is really intense, from small stuff like who likes what and when, to deep dark kinks or past experiences
The details of the threeways you share—what she liked, what you discovered anew, what jealousy or emotions you worked through to let yourself enjoy the experience—create epic memories in your minds.
Threesomes allow each other access to other partners, while sharing them.
Everyone wants the variety of sexual partners that is natural to the human animal, but not everyone wants to break the sexual bond they have by sleeping with other people.
Some consider polyamory, or live polyamorous lives, but others find that too complicated or prefer the challenge of commitment to one person.
One solution to this seemingly impossible conundrum is to engage in threesomes. That means neither of you are having private sexual relationships with other people: you are sharing them at the same time, exploring your sexuality and other partners with one another.
That’s what you call a win-win. Or in this case, a win-win-win!
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