Maybe your girlfriend recently shared her fantasy of making love to a transgender woman. Or maybe you’re crushing on a t-girl at work and wondering what it might be like to watch her and your gal get it on.
There’s a first time for everything, and if you haven’t yet enjoyed a TMF (trans-male-female) threeway, there are steamy times ahead!
If you are in an open relationship and want to try a threesome with a transgender man or woman, here’s the nitty gritty to make your first time fun and sexy.
Still looking to find your transgender third? Try a threesome dating site that has trans profiles, like FindaThreesome.com.
TMF Threesome Tips
Keep it real when they ask what the deal is.
A trans woman approached online for sex, including a threesome, is going to wonder if you are a “tranny chaser” or what kind of reputation you have in online dating.
I say keep it real. If you’ve never been with a trans woman before, but always dreamed about it, let her know you are attracted to trans women and want to explore your sexuality.
If you’re open minded but haven’t given much thought one way or another to the idea, let her know that too. “My wife is bisexual and finds you smoking hot, and that’s why I’m game,” will explain everything.
Get comfortable with dating first.
Get together for drinks or a walk in the park to get to know each other. The three of you will be more comfortable planning a TMF threesome if you have a chance to chat first and get over any nerves or anxieties without the pressure of getting naked right away.
Take her word for it.
The cis guy and cis girl who are not experienced in bed with trans women might be unsure how to pleasure her. You don’t need to worry about being the expert—she’s the expert. You can completely relax and wait for her to show you how to touch her.
The first threesome can be all about her, especially if the chemistry is great between the three of you and you think this might be the start of an ongoing trilogy. Just relax, and let your first time together be about discovering her body and learning how it works.
Remember, every woman’s body is different.
While a transgender woman might be different in some ways from other women you’ve loved, remember that every single woman is unique and getting to know her body is always on the menu with a new lover.
By now you’ve likely been with enough women to know that no two enjoy the same kinds of stimulation or get off the same way.
Relax and enjoy the ride.
Don’t impose a dramatic cinematic mood or a pornographic one on the scene—keep things playful and open and unhurried. First-time sex is always awkward, but in a good way. That fresh encounter is a rush, and it can really be enjoyed if you aren’t taking things too seriously. Be easy going, not demanding, and enjoy yourself.
Prioritize their needs and desires.
The best sex always puts the woman first. In this case, there are two women, and focusing on them and prioritizing their pleasure is your best bet to success. Forget everything else. Enjoy both girls—the contrasts and commonalities. Indulge them with the kind of touch they crave and the fantasies they want to explore.
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