While you might think the threesome fantasy is primarily a man’s dream hookup, lots of women fantasize about MMF and FFM threesomes. We like the idea of two men paying attention to us, showering us with affection and more. We like to explore what it’s like to kiss or touch another woman if we haven’t before.
There are so many incarnations of what a threesome fantasy looks like—the possibilities are endless. One important factor that affects what a group sex situation will look like or how it will unfold is boundaries, each individual’s limits and preferences.
Of course, boundaries should be discussed by all three parties before anything goes down. It just helps to avoid awkward scenes or feelings in the heat of the moment.
One boundary your girlfriend might have is that she’s not willing to go down on another woman. If she is firm about this, it must be respected. You never want to push someone to do something they are uncomfortable with for any reason. What can help is understanding why she may not want to do this. Let’s look at some of the reasons.
6 Reasons She Won’t Go Down on another Woman
1. She has no curiosity.
There isn’t always a first time for everything. Just because she’s adventurous enough to have a threesome, it doesn’t mean she’s going to perform cunnilingus on another woman. It may not be her sexual jam. Like many sexual acts, you don’t need to try it to know you don’t like it.
2. She has zero desire for it.
Many women are bi-curious or just open to sexual exploration with another woman’s body. But some aren’t. Your girlfriend or wife may be solely into your planned FFM threesome because she gets off on fulfilling your sexual fantasy. But even if that’s the scenario, she may have a hard limit about not going down on your third.
3. She thinks it’s too intimate a connection.
A woman who is bi-curious or bisexual may have this boundary because she knows how powerful the connection of oral sex can be. It’s a very intimate act that many individuals reserve for partners they love or have been with for a certain amount of time. Sometimes this is a line couples agree not to cross together.
4. She doesn’t like giving oral to anyone.
If you have a robust sex life, then you’ve likely met women who don’t go down. I know I’ve met men who don’t, or only do it out of some kind of duty (why bother, I say.) Many women with past sexual trauma don’t, but that’s none of your business, unless she decides to share that.
5. She’s not physically attracted to women.
Many women will tell you when they see a beautiful woman, or share their female celebrity crushes. But there are some women who feel zero attraction to other women, physically. If she can’t appreciate the curves, she’s not going to want to lick what’s in between.
6. She doesn’t want to, and you don’t know why.
Let’s say you’ve asked your partner if she’ll go muff diving with the hot woman you’ve arranged a threesome with. She says no. You ask her why, and she says she just doesn’t want to. End of story. You don’t need to keep prying. She may have a specific reason that she doesn’t want to share, but she may just not know herself or be able to articulate it.
There are so many aspects of a threesome to enjoy that not watching your lover go down on another woman need not be a big deal. Move on and enjoy!
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