Threesome Basics: What You Need

Planning your first threesome? Or maybe you’ve already tried a group sex experience, but it didn’t quite happen the way you imagined.

Preparation is key to any big event in your life, whether it’s an important job interview or a three-way hookup.

What You Need for a Threesome

• Comfortable bed. That old hide-a-bed with the springs that jab into your back just won’t do. Whoever has a king-size bed wins hosting duties when it comes to a threesome.
• Spacious environment. If you are relegated to your bedroom because your roommate is binge watching Netflix, you might want to plan for another night when you have the whole apartment to yourself. Or maybe you want to find a couple who has a house, or better yet, a dungeon!
• Protection and lube. Have lots of both on hand, so the party doesn’t have to end prematurely… now that would be embarrassing!
• Clean bathroom and towels. Whiskers in the sink and pubes on the floor will have anyone rushing out the door. When it comes to hookups, whether it’s one-on-one or group play, get your pad in shape. This also includes fresh sheets.
• Time to take your time. If you think you’re going to fit a threesome into your two-hour window, think again. This might work for couples and singles who have had a regular threesome arrangement for a while, but if it’s a first meetup, it can take some individuals a long time to get comfortable before the action starts.

Threesome Extras that Impress

• Props and sex toys. This is especially fun for kinky folk who like to explore BDSM with new partners. And know that you don’t have to bring out all your goodies, just the ones that seem appropriate to the people you’re with.
• Cameras and recorders. Truth be told, most people expect threesome discretion as a given, whether it’s because they keep their polyamory play to themselves or a million other reasons. But… if you all consent and are into making a sexy souvenir, then go for it!
• Voyeurs and extra players. Maybe one of you just wants to bring a partner who is only into watching, masturbating in the corner. Or maybe a planned threesome becomes a foursome… or tensome!
• Porn. Many couples love watching dirty videos while they get it on, and why not? Porn can be a great part of foreplay to get the juices flowing, and it can also take some of the pressure off the real-life performers if anxiety is present.