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Do’s and Don’ts of Selling a Threesome to Your Girlfriend

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First things first, guys… the threesome is primarily a male fantasy. Yes, there are some women who love nothing more than a sweet and sexy triad, but the reality is… if we do want one, it’s a lot easier for us to find than you.

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Let’s focus on how you can sell your other half on joining you in a ménage a trois… because some women just need a little convincing. That was the case for my first threesome experience.

For me it was my best girlfriend who persuaded me to pick up a cute Latino at our favorite bar and bring him back to our shared apartment. It ended up being so much fun, it actually became a regular thing us girls did… definitely a wild time in my life that hasn’t been duplicated.

If you are already in a relationship and feel reluctant to bring it up or you’ve been met with nothing but a cold shoulder when the idea has been broached, here’s some tips to improve your chances of making it happen.

Do’s and Don’ts for Selling a Threesome to Your Girlfriend

DO focus on what it can do for your relationship. There are many ways that opening up your relationship can help it to prosper—from spicing up a dull sex life to deepening your level of trust.

DON’T focus on your fantasy of sex with another woman. It’s much more palatable to a woman to hear you talk about your desire to see her with another person, or be part of a tag team who wants to please her at the same time.

DO answer and address all her questions or fears. A woman’s concerns about her partner wanting to bring a third in are legitimate, so don’t try to sweep them under the rug, or make her feel that she is over-reacting… unless you never want to have a threesome!

DON’T throw a tantrum if you don’t get your way. If she shuts you down and gets angry or upset during the discussion, drop it unless she wants to keep exploring the idea. You can always bring it up again in the future.

DO ask her what her ideal threesome looks like. Most straight men are only into an FFM threesome, and that usually involves watching the two ladies interact, but this might not be appealing to your girlfriend.

DON’T dismiss her fantasy if it’s an MMF threesome. If you want what you want, be prepared to fulfill her fantasy too. This might not be too hard, because watching your lover get turned on should be a turn on for you too.

DO choose a third together. Use a niche dating site that caters to couples and singles looking for a threesome like PolyamoryDate.com. Create a couples profile and have fun looking for an idea third who meets both your requirements. You’ll learn a lot about each other through this process.

DON’T ask to sleep with anyone she knows. Even if you think your girlfriends’s co-worker is sexy hot, it’s best not to inquire about the possibility that she be your third. Why invite jealousy before anything has even happened.

Good luck… let us know how it turns out in the comments!

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