Couples Advice

Talk Her into Having a Threesome

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If you’re looking for tips on convincing your leading lady to bring another woman into your bedroom, you’ve come to the right place.

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But before we begin, let me state the obvious and obligatory disclaimer—the keyword here is “convince” and not “coerce.”

Threesomes are not for everyone. It’s fine for you to state your case, but if her position is clear and carefully thought out, then accept that. But if you know she’s curious, here’s how you can increase your chances!

Let her know it can strengthen your bond.

Your girlfriend may be afraid of weakening the bond and commitment between you. She may never have considered what some other women have discovered: the couple that plays together stays together!

Exploring and experiencing sex in different ways is one way couples get closer. Risking the vulnerability that comes with putting our desires out there, and fulfilling our fantasies together can intensify the bond she is afraid might break.

Emphasize that a threesome is a shared experience.

Too many horny men approach sexual escapades by emphasizing the selfish aspects of their lust. Then you guys blame women for not being sexually adventurous! Not fair. Imagine if your girlfriend told you, “Sorry, Bill, I don’t get excited with you anymore. I fantasize about my co-worker all day, and I bet his cock is huge.”

This is too often how you come across when you bring up your fantasies.

Now imagine if she told you this instead: “Our lovemaking still drives me out of my mind after all these years. I’ve never been so close and so sexually free. I fantasize about turning you on by getting caught groping the new guy at work. I imagine you walking in and then begging to watch him fuck me.”

One approach is pure rejection; other leaves you with an erection!

Tell her what’s in it for her.

You’re not going to sell her on a threesome if it’s all about you, you, you.

Emphasize what’s in it for her. For me, the absolute main point of the threesome, besides driving my man crazy, is that I get to be with women. As much as I love everything about men and always will, you guys don’t have breasts.

It’s strange to me that this is not a selling point for every woman—who wouldn’t want a chance to play with a girl’s titties for hours on end? But every person is sexually unique, and you know your girlfriend intimately. So think about what’s in it for her, and use that to talk to her.

“Imagine two of us eating you out. You love using a dildo up front when I fuck you in the ass—imagine it’s a real cock next time.  You get so horny when we watch interracial porn—we can look for a black man to do the honors.”

Be a gentleman, be compassionate, be trustworthy.

Be the man she can trust, even in giving license to your horny urges.

If she’s not satisfied in bed, and she’s not happy at home and not sure what you’re up to or if you’re being honest, it’s going to be awfully difficult to convince her that a threesome will all magically change things.

But if you’re the man she trusts and depends on and you think of her first, she will be secure in your relationship—and that’s what opens doors. 

Let us know what convinced your girlfriend to try a threesome. How did the three-way turn out?

Tell us what you think!

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