Threesomes are often driven by individual gratification, but they also have many benefits for couples who are married or in long-term relationships.
Here are five pleasant bonuses a couple might experience when then invite a third person into their relationship.
5 Threesome Benefits for Couples
1. Shake Things Up—in a Positive Way
By discussing the positive and negative feelings that arise before and after a threesome, a couple can better understand them and, if necessary, focus on getting to the all-important source of any emotional discomfort. If all goes well, they can also gain a greater understanding of each other’s needs, fears, and desires.
Even if a couple has discussions but then mutually agrees that they’re not ready for a threesome, this emotional depth will still strengthen the relationship.
2. Builds Communication Skills
For couples thinking about opening up their marriage to a third, the extra level of communication that needs to be explored can also be an essential tool for delving into feelings like envy, jealousy, and frustration.
When communication skills have then been built up, they can be also be put to great use in every aspect of a relationship, not just in the bedroom.
3. Takes Sexual Pressure Off
While a threesome can be thrilling in and of itself, it can also be a way for one partner to fulfill a sexual fantasy that they wouldn’t otherwise be able to satisfy in their marriage.
My best friend who is married had a fantasy to be spanked and talked down to, but his wife is also a natural submissive. However, when he presented this to her, she suggested that they hire a dominatrix to fulfill his fantasy. His wife played the voyeur which turned him on, and her!
Sometimes when we suppress our fantasies, or our partner’s, subconscious resentment can build or even depression. This doesn’t mean your partner is obligated to participate in a threesome if she has zero interest, but it’s something to consider. A partner’s arousal is often our own.
4. Defines Your Relationship
Threesomes can be a wonderful way for couples to experiment, and so better understand the dynamics of their relationship.
A third person can act as a catalyst towards revealing otherwise unknown dimensions in a relationship, like discovering pleasures from BDSM, same-sex encounters, role playing, voyeurism, and more. With this knowledge, couples can then explore these surprise interests one on one.
5. Brings Fantasies to Life
While this can sometimes be enjoyable, there’s always the risk that it won’t work out—souring not only that experience, but also the fantasy itself.
The threesome is perhaps the number one fantasy of most men, but it’s often part of a larger fantasy such as threesome role playing, specific sex positions, power exchange dynamics, or BDSM scenes.
Instead of trying to create the whole kit and caboodle, become comfortable with the threesome act itself. If you and your partner enjoy it and see it as becoming more than just a one-off, then expand the fantasy to include more moving parts.
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