What you’re about to read is hardly balanced. But that’s why you’re here, right? To find out what the naughty team is up to? Well, I publish threesome advice columns—obviously I’m biased towards open relationships. Here comes the pitch.
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Learning New Tricks
Everyone has their own unique way of having sex. Hook up with someone else and the possibilities double. We (hopefully, theoretically) learn countless new approaches to makin’ sweet love with each different person—that’s a lot of fun to contribute to your primary relationship. Keeping it open is the surest way to bring home some much-welcome tricks to your arsenal. Kiss same-old same-old goodbye.
Bye-Bye Boredom
Sure, I believe the same two people can have exciting sex with no one but each other for their whole relationship—if that relationship has a lifespan of about two years, max. Sex gets stale, and ultimately boring. It’s not that we don’t love our primary partner enough—open relationships simply help to break up routine.
Sometimes a couple considers all the usual suspects during a funk (ballroom dancing, vacation, even having a baby!), when, really, opening the relationship might fix the leak quicker and easier.
The Jealousy Monster
Jealousy is a terrible thing. Exorcising it requires muscle. Nothing flexes and strengthens it more than the understanding and acceptance of an open relationship in practice.
You learn that your partner isn’t replacing you—they are only out for some fun, like going to the movies (only they brings you home some popcorn of your own afterwards). Like any muscle, it’ll be weak at first; but trust me: reps help tone. Soon enough you’ll be done with jealousy in all corners of your life, not just the in the bedroom.
Longevity
Learn new sexy tricks to bring to the primary relationship, keep boredom at bay, learn to purge jealousy—imagine for a moment how wonderful these three things would be. Sounds utopian, I know, but take my word for it: there are plenty of couples out there living exactly as described. It strengthens their relationship, which in the end lasts longer.
But there’s a rule! FULL disclosure and honesty is required at all times. Both partners MUST know what the other is doing and with whom. That’s the big catch. No sneaking around.
Otherwise it’s not an open relationship. It’s cheating. Then you’re doomed.
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