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Can the Threesome Reality Live Up to the Fantasy?

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Threesome Fantasy vs. Reality

Q: What’s  wrong with me? I’m a lucky man. I have a new hook-up friend who loves sex and is adventurous.

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The problem? We hooked up with another girl a handful of times and with a male friend of hers once—all terrible!

I thought maybe trying it more than once would be better, that’s why we had a few sessions with the same girl.

I understand that the menage a trois is not for everyone. But here’s the thing: I have a hot collection of group-sex porn and almost always think about three of us when jerking off. Three-ways have always been the height of erotic fantasy for me, and the idea of taking turns with another guy—or girl—gets my dick so hard. 

I finally got the chance for all my dreams to come true, and it just didn’t hit the spot. It was at times awkward, fake, silly, and about as sexy as laundry day. What gives?

A: Acting out our fantasies can seem overly scripted, and planning something out doesn’t always turn out as hot as our hopes. In this case, recognizing that practice makes perfect, even for spontaneous sex, can help.

But nothing is quite the buzz kill as “trying too hard” to have fun or get horny.

If someone has tried something once or twice and it wasn’t all that, i would say give it a chance. But in this case, it seems you already thought of that.

Threesomes might not for be for you. I know his may seem hard to swallow if it’s been your number-one fantasy!

But the reality of it may simply not be what’s in your mind. That’s the thing with fantasies—they aren’t real. And making them real doesn’t mean they will match the expectation.

We all have fantasies that are ESCAPES from reality but that are not meant for reality.

A common fantasy for me is being overpowered and taken by a man, while friends of mine have confessed to thoughts about having sex with their stepfather or neighbor’s wife. 

Your go-to fantasy might simply be your escape from the daily grind, but making it part of everyday life just doesn’t serve its purpose.

You and your girl can explore endless one-on-one stuff. You might find it hotter to fantasize together about a third than to bring one over.

My advice is to get back to your porno stash of hot threesomes, and enjoy other adventures with your new partner.

Think about it as Neapolitan ice cream: some love it, but some like the three flavors—strawberry, vanilla, and chocolate—better one at a time.

Tell us what you think!

Tell us what you think!

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