When sex is best, things are always happening in the green zone— consent is maximized, and it’s a body party where everyone’s invited.
When it’s the red zone time, everything stops—direct words are spoken, boundaries are established, and lessons are taught to students who just don’t know better yet.
Sometimes, sex is in a slightly uneasy, grey area of connection and communication—where comfort zones gets expanded and explored. It’s not for everyone, and it’s not always easy to handle… but as I recently read somewhere: you don’t need a burning desire to have sex, just basic willpower.
In the context of a threesome, I’m thinking of something that happened to me recently that was blurry as a drunkard’s vision at last call. Not that I’m ever in that state of mind when I make my sexual decisions, but the metaphor applies. Cheers.
So, I’m in this threesome and getting some of the best oral sex of the year. I’m lost in Blissland, and she is too. That was pure green light, go go go, yes ma’am, more please, Hulk-colored, two thumbs up, glowing-green zone sexual connection.
For this to have happened in the alignment of bodies, intentions, actions, and intangibles… there had to be a person behind her doing some stuff to her of another erotic nature. I’m supportive of multi-dimensional sexual scenarios, but I don’t always have a desire to interact with said rear admiral’s energy. For me to continue getting the best oral sex of the year, I had to isolate myself and her from her and him, mentally.
It wasn’t a problem to zone in on her, since she was so damn into giving me something lovely. But I was well aware that behind her, upon her behind, things were happening with someone who I was emotionally meh about.
I had to make a choice to endure the energy of the uncomfortable for the unbelievable, or to gracefully bow out and thank her for her services. What did I do? I gracefully stayed in the game. And sometimes in threesomes, moments like that happen.
It’s your choice to either end your presence in a scene, or shift your focus to whatever you like best. It’s your prerogative, Bobby Brown! Just be sure to pay enough respect to the entire situation to not completely cold shoulder the comrade in the comfort zone who you aren’t so comfortable with.
Don’t be cruel, Bobby! Spread love, and if you can’t spread love, then spread respect.
Sincerely,
Addi Stewart
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