“It’s better to want something you don’t have, than to have something you don’t want.” This is advice that was given to me when I was in my twenties, and it was spoken in regards to something involving record contracts and the music industry.
There are many parallels between music and porn, so I have wisely found the connection between that saying and the sexual bridge of truth… as in sexually transmitted infections! It’s so much better to want a new sexual situation, rather than force something that isn’t exactly right (a situation you really don’t want to deal with, especially if you might need medical attention).
I had a threesome situation happen in an orgy recently, and this mini-episode in the middle of paradise was NOT something that was as pleasant and joyful as other levels of experience there. And I listened to my gut and followed my instincts. Even though my heart and desire and lust were rapidly moving in another direction, I still had to reign them in and say, “Hold up!”
I was in a fourth or fifth session with a few lovers, and I took a tiny break. Then, a strange new woman came into the room and looked just very lovely to the eye. Sweet brunette, curvy, kind. She went down on the woman I just made love to, and it was a glorious sight to behold. I was happily watching for a few minutes, then decided I wanted to join—to get involved as James Brown says.
So I crawled to the woman who was going down on the other one I was just with, and I whispered in her ear. “Do you mind if I eat your pussy?” And she stopped eating pussy to say, “Yes.” There was about to be a very nice pussy-eating train, and it was going to be a human centipede in the BEST sense.
I got behind the second woman, ready to eat her pussy as she was on her hands and knees. And I have to be honest: I tasted her for one moment, and something wasn’t quite right—that’s all I will say in regards to that.
In every element of existence—from touch to taste to smell to vibe to thoughts to eye contact to smiles to anything you imagine—if things are not exactly how you want them to be, it’s okay to say no thank you… even if you’re in the middle of a hot threesome! And that’s what I did. I said, “Have fun,” and let them continue among themselves.
I didn’t want to do the thing I thought I wanted to do. But sometimes, things are not what they seem, and you have to follow your intuition, not your cravings. Otherwise, you may end up having something you don’t want, instead of wanting something you don’t have… and sex is a little more permanent than music!
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Rock on,
Addi Stewart
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