So, you had a threesome or two or three with your leading lady, and you want to make this a regular part of your sex life. She was open to experimenting but didn’t enjoy them as much as you did.
Before she throws in the towel, I’d like to share some tips, girl to girl, on how to make threesomes really enjoyable. For your part of the deal, make sure that you aren’t making your whole sexual relationship with her about getting naked with other women. For her part, encourage her to consider these tips and suggestions.
Threesome Golden Rules for Women
1. Be More Selfish
Do it for the sake of sex, not just for him and not for emotional bonding. That’s all great stuff, but if you want to make the most of a new sexual experience like this one, focus on the physical pleasure of it, and be selfish. Letting your body and its pleasure take center stage will help override any natural uncertainties you have.
2. Lose Yourself in the New Body
Women become resentful in threesomes too often because we’re doing it in order to “let” our boyfriend be with another woman or see us with another man. We are focused on our main partner, and there’s this awkward third person in the bed.
If a man can improve a threesome, it’s by putting the focus back on his main partner when he has them. For us, it’s the opposite—take the focus off of your boyfriend or husband and get lost in the new man or woman.
Abandon yourself to the sensations created by touching another woman or by a different male body. Since you have the chance, really explore it. Your partner won’t feel left out—he’ll be thrilled that he can see you enjoying yourself sexually too.
3. Accept that Your Man Loves Fucking other People
This is harsh and difficult and tricky to do, but to enjoy group sex, it’s absolutely key that a woman let go of her natural impulse to want to be his one and only.
Whether you’ve been married for forty years and were virgins when you met, or he’s a polyamorous bisexual who lost count of his partners shortly after the age of twenty, ladies, he thinks about other women. Coming to terms with this reality makes it lose all of its threat. Yes, he does. You can’t have a threesome and hope he doesn’t enjoy the new pussy.
Even the most horny and adventurous woman can have difficulty accepting the obvious, and that’s because our instinct to control the male mate is built in. Accept that you feel jealous—it’s not wrong, it’s normal—and accept that your jealousy, whether overt or underlying, will not change reality.
Once you come to terms with his desire for variety, you can let go of it and enjoy the threesome without being threatened by how horny he is for her. Thrive off that surge in his testosterone—the sex you two have after will be crazy hot, trust me.
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