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5 Biggest Challenges to Make a Threesome Happen

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Are you still fantasizing about being in a threesome? Has this fantasy been going on for years, maybe even decades, without it coming to fruition? Don’t give up hope just yet.

We love to provide advice and strategies here at Threesome Tips, but we also understand that it just doesn’t happen overnight. Good planning and a little luck go a long way to making your fantasies, of all kinds, happen.

Knowing some of the challenges that you might be facing will also help you on your quest. A threesome doesn’t magically happen after all, but we know, it sure would be awesome if it did!

5 Biggest Challenges to Making a Threesome Happen

1. Being in a Monogamous Relationship

Being with the same woman you love for years, doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t or won’t fantasize about having a threesome. A lot of men just file this fantasy away when they make their vows, either to collect dust forever and ever, or to be discovered again one day to examine the possibilities.

Not every woman who told you NO WAY to a threesome will stick to that. We evolve and our needs and desires do too. We sometimes change our minds, and it’s okay to start a dialogue to see where she stands today.

2. Finding a Third

Let’s imagine you’ve gotten over that first hurdle, or that you’re in a relationship, where your partner has shown interest in opening things up. Where are you going to find that third? You’re going to first think if there is anyone on the fringes of your life that might fit the bill? It’s unlikely, and there are many down sides to involving someone you know, so that’s why so many couples use online dating to meet other adventurous sex partners. Join a niche dating site like CouplesDating.com to meet adventurous singles looking to join a couple.

3. Being Single

You might think this is the hardest place to start from if you’re looking to make a threesome happen, but it’s not that different than being on the flip side and looking for a third… because you’re THAT third. Now that might spoil your dream if it’s being with two hot babes, but with boundaries you don’t necessarily need to get intimate with a man who is part of a couple, unless you’re open to new things. There are many reasons to try the MMF threesome.

4. Living in a Small Community

This applies to rural settings as well where you know just about everyone. Again, this is where online dating helps. Maybe you have to drive to a city that’s an hour away to meet up with your the threesome partners you’ve met online. Or maybe you’re going to travel a distance to attend a sex club or fetish party where all the guests are open to hookups of all kinds, some even on site. Don’t be afraid to go beyond your comfort zone to make it all happen.

Besides being difficult to find partners in a small town, it’s also hard to keep things discreet. If you really want hookups on the down low, look for partners before you go on holiday to meet up with. Use your dating site to see if there’s anyone out there, wherever out there may be. And of course, be safe when looking and always meet in a public space to suss things out first.

5. Lacking Confidence

This is a big one, and it prevents not just threesomes from going down, but also just one-on-one hookups. Women do love confidence, so sometimes you just have to fake it til you make it (without lying through your teeth, of course). We all deserve affection and intimacy and physical contact. There’s lots of women who only want casual hookups, and there’s lots of couples who want a one-off threesome.

Put your best self out there. Create a winning dating profile, with the help of a friend if need be, that is straightforward and specific. You may attract less singles or couples, but you’ll attract the people who want the same thing. Patience and perseverance are your best friends when looking for a threesome.

What do you think, can you make a threesome happen? Please share in the comments!

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