Some people think strap-ons are only for lesbians, gals who want vaginal penetration without the man that comes attached. Not so, my sexy comrades! The duo deluxe that is the strap-on harness and dildo is one of the fastest selling sex toys for straights and gays and everyone in between.
My last boyfriend revealed a secret desire to explore anal, so we went out and shopped for a strap-on that was big enough to satisfy, but not too big. He was satisfied beyond belief, and I found myself actually enjoying a domme role.
This experience made me think of using the toy in a threesome—penetrate a male from behind while being penetrated from behind by another male. I love to fantasize about the possibilities when it comes to group sex.
Strap-on Tips for Threesomes
- Shop around for the right fit. Most harnesses are adjustable, so you don’t need to have separate ones for different sized bodies. Dildo size is important, as you don’t want one that is so big that it scares everyone off, nor one too small that makes people laugh. Check out the Kink Lover’s BDSM & Sex Toy Store for a wide selection of strap-ons.
- Keep your toys squeaky clean. Whether you’re hosting a threesome or attending with your goodie bag in tow, always make sure that your toys are clean from prior use. This should go without saying, but some people get lazy.
- Introduce the strap-on appropriately. You may want to experiment with the strap-on with your permanent partner or full-time lover, before whipping it out with a couple you’ve just met online. It would be a shame to let your kink ruin the chance of a hot threeway.
- Have a sense of humor. Sex can be awkward, strange and full of the unexpected, and this is even more true when there are more partners and toys involved. Sex should not only be sensual and sexy, but also fun and playful.
- Share and respect boundaries. You’ll want to make sure something doesn’t slide in where you don’t want, when you don’t expect it to. Discuss your limits beforehand to avoid any awkward, angry, or embarrassing moments.
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