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5 Things Women Wish You Knew about Threesomes

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You can’t read her mind, so let me share some insight into what women want you to know when it comes to threesomes and group-sex encounters.

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1. It’s not always about any old threesome.

It’s not just three in the bed that turns her crank, and any combination will do.

It may be specific to you, but not always, and threesomes she had already or will want in the future may be about someone else.

For women, more often than not, the things she’s “into” are because of the emotional and sexual context. In other words, she’s not necessarily looking for particular kinks like golden showers, bondage, or adult nursing—it’s that exploring those things with a particular person she’s profoundly attracted to becomes exciting.

So it might not be fair, but just because she had wild orgies with her last boyfriend doesn’t mean she’ll want the same with you. On the upside, just because she’s never explored certain kinks or possibilities like a threeway, doesn’t mean she won’t want to now.

2. It’s not all about you.

Lots of women I know can’t be bothered planning a threesome because guys act as if they’re the only one that matters. I think guys feel like they better get out of it what they came for in case it goes away or never happens again. They can’t believe it’s happening and get lost in the excitement.

Then again, if the threesome is with a woman and another man, you might be more inclined to receive or watch because, well, it’s a dude, and you don’t know what to do with that.

Either way, slow down, be in the moment, and remember you’re not alone. There are three of you, and whether it’s an MMF or an FFM combination, put your lovers first, especially if one is a regular partner!

The more focus you put on the others, the more likely they’ll want to repeat the threeway.

3. Don’t compare women to one another.

Unless you never want to see either woman naked again, don’t get all enraptured about how “her” hair is longer, pussy is tighter, tits are bigger, whatever.

How would you feel if she went on and on about the other man’s cock being thicker or that he was a better lover?

4. Threesome sex isn’t better sex, it’s just different.

If you act like one-on-one sex is a total bore after a threesome, you shouldn’t be surprised to find yourself kicked to the curb, or at the very least not having any more of threesomes.

One thing women can’t stand is how ungrateful some of you are for regular sex after she gives you something wild.

Once you begged to get into her pants, and now she’s throwing herself at you but you aren’t aroused unless it’s about someone else. That hurts.

The irony is that if you were with the third, you’d be dreaming of your steady—it would be reversed. Don’t do this.

5. Pay MORE attention to her before and after, not less.

Yes, we want to experience licking a woman’s pussy or watching you slide your shaft into that little pink starfish, but ultimately the purpose of having these hot threesomes, if we are in a relationship with you, is to have more intimacy, arousal, affection, adventure, and attention with and from you. This is what she wants from the threesome, so give it to her.

Take advantage of the closeness and opportunity for more hot sex, and make sure you give her that needed excitement and arousal, so that the whole thing will happen again.

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