While there are no doubt some polyamorous, group-sex-loving, out-loud-and-proud humans, most of us like to keep our sexual exploits behind closed doors. And sometimes it’s of the utmost important that we don’t have others knowing what we’re up to within our open relationships, or even single lives.
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Tips for Discreet Threesome Hookups
1. Choose an anonymous third or couple. This means not asking your wife’s hot bestie or the hunk down the street to join you for a hookup. And that’s where niche dating sites come in. Sites like PolyamoryDate.com cater to singles and couples who enjoy threesomes but aren’t necessarily looking for a commitment.
2. Keep your personal life out of your profile and communication. If you truly want no-strings, fun threeways, don’t talk about your family, your work, or the places you frequent when you first meet someone. If things evolve into a regular threesome arrangement, of course you will want to share more.
3. Discuss your privacy boundaries and confidentiality before meeting new partners. It sounds boring and awkward (and it is a little), but it’s best to get this out of the way, rather than dampen the threesome mood by bringing it up while someone is about to orgasm.
4. Have your threesome in a neutral location. Whatever your reasons for discretion—you don’t want the neighbors to know, you have kids at home, only you and your partner know about your open relationship—it’s best to meet somewhere everyone involved will feel comfortable. You don’t want strangers to know where you live.
5. Partake in a post-threesome discussion. This doesn’t have to feel heavy, just light-hearted pillow talk that gives everyone a chance to talk about their feelings, their level of interest in hooking up again, and to reassure one another that the engagement is strictly on the down low.
6. Use a different name. I’m not really into lying when it comes to these kinds of things, but if you know in advance your threesome or group sex experience will be a total one-off, then you might want to use your middle name or whatever… sometimes this can help one feel less inhibited too!
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