Have all your threesomes gone exactly as planned? Do all your group sex experiences live up to the fantasy? With most sexual scenarios, there is room for improvement.
7 Tips for Better Threesomes
1. Go with the Flow
If it’s a spontaneous threesome then it will happen where it happens. It could be in the back of a taxi, or in your living room. It might be beside the pool on your mom’s patio furniture. Who can say? Just go with the flow.
The main thing for an out-of-the-blue threesome is to make sure that everyone is comfortable and having fun. If things start to go weird, then no big deal—it can all stop whenever. People never need to go past their comfort zone and shouldn’t be pressured.
2. Take Time to Plan
If it’s a planned threesome, then you have a chance to set things up. Make sure the space you want to use is clean and ready. Have appropriate music on hand, so that you won’t have to get up and change the tunes. God knows how people managed threesomes back in the 1960s when they had to keep getting up to flip the record. Set the vibe and everything will go smoother.
3. Provide the Basics
Make sure there is lube, contraception, food and drinks. Add to that whatever other party favors you can think of, and which the laws of the land allow you. Some people may want to go all night, while some will want chill out time in between the active moments—account for people’s different needs and particulars.
4. Communicate
Discuss boundaries beforehand, and also be open to chit chat during the experience. Are you okay with this? Do you like this? Do you want me to stop? Even serious questions can be said playfully if everybody is feeling calm. Make sure you respect people’s wishes about what is going to happen. If they don’t want to engage in something, respect their limits.
5. Be Clean
I’m not just talking about STDs. Unless you’re on some commune, then get in the shower and clean. Take showers or baths during the night of the threesome and wash out your privates as they get dirty and sticky. Refreshing will make everyone feel a little more comfortable.
6. Take Turns and Share
Don’t let anybody feel left out. Two people should focus on one other, then switch around. You should all exit your threesome with no hard feelings.
7. Debrief the Experience
Talk to your partner about the threesome after. Did either of you go further than you wanted? What does that mean? Do you want to do it again? You will likely want to share your fantasies about it, and talk about the parts that turned you on. The hot memory of seeing the person you love getting fucked by somebody else can last for a long time.
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