Can you snap your fingers and make a threesome happen? I love magical thinking, but of course this isn’t a possibility. However, you can take steps to get you to the promised land faster than you might think.
I had a couple of spontaneous threesomes way back when, but they just don’t seem to manifest that way anymore. In your twenties, when you might be at college or living in a house full of friends coming and going, there’s always a lot more mingling and parties that provide opportunities for frisky fun, but when you grow up and half your friends are settled down with kids, it’s just not the same old playing field.
So what am I talking about then, when it comes to fast tracking a threesome?
I’m talking about knowing what you want, being assertive, resourceful, and tenacious. You might not be able to make a threesome magically appear, but you can make it happen faster when you take charge of your desires.
How to Make a Threesome Happen Faster
Know What Kind of Threesome You Want
Daydreaming and fantasizing are fun, especially on your bed while wanking off. But if you really want that threesome to materialize, start thinking about what you really want. Who does that threesome include. Two women? Another man and a woman? Your girlfriend and her polyamorous friend? Are you just interested in watching your wife get it on in front of you with a perfect stranger?
The power of visualization is real, and if you don’t know what exactly it is that you want, you’re less likely to find it.
Be Assertive in Your Dating Profile
It’s the proactive people of this world that make things happen, and this includes everything from landing a great job to finding the right apartment to making a sexual dream come true.
So what’s the first step? If you’re not polyamorous or someone who frequents sex clubs or BDSM munches, a threesome is not going to present itself without a little elbow grease. Rewrite your online dating profile to state what you or what you and your partner are looking for. And don’t be afraid to be specific—the ones who aren’t interested won’t bother, but those who are will reach out.
Read: Tips for Creating Your Threesome Dating Profile
Be Resourceful: Try Threesome Dating Sites
If you’re like a lot of people, you’ve only ever tried mainstream dating sites and apps because they’re free. If money is tight that’s understandable and all the more reason to tweak your profile to attract only those interested in threesomes.
If you can spare some funds, try a niche dating site that caters to adventurous singles and couples looking for something that isn’t considered mainstream.
See our list of the Best Threesome Dating Sites.
Be Tenacious: Never Give Up
There is a real burnout that can happen for people who use online dating to meet others. A few bad dates can really level your confidence. And your hopes of meeting up with a hot woman who you’ve been chatting with can all of a sudden go up in smoke when she deletes her profile for reasons you’ll never know. A lot of shit can happen online, and does, but you can’t let dating rejection get you down or dash your desires.
Know when to take a break for your mental and emotional health, but stay at it. It’s a learning curve and if you’re willing to learn from your mistakes and others, take things with a grain of salt, and get back on the horse after a fall, tenacity can pay off. Just don’t let your quest consume you. It’s when our lives are fully engaged in all areas, that good things happen when we least expect it.
Ready to make that threesome happen more quickly? Read How to Find a Threesome Online.
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