Couples Advice

Tips for Watching Her Have Sex with another Man

Woman Seducing Man

In my last relationship, my partner revealed early on that his biggest sexual fantasies was to watch me get drilled by another man.

It was somewhat surprising, as I knew there was no chance he would ever take part in a full-on MMF threesome. As we explored the idea, I was able to understand his fantasy more. He would want not only to watch, but to be hidden away so that the other man didn’t know he was watching. Complicated, yes. Unethical, definitely! I would never lure a man into something like that.

But I was able to incorporate his fantasy through dirty talk. I would create the scene for him, and that was arousing in itself. Our relationship was also long-distance, so it worked great for phone or screen sex when we were apart.

We were close to the possibility of having a third—a man to fuck me while my boyfriend watched from the corner of the room—when I came up with rules that would need to be followed Alas, it never happened, as we broke up soon after. Maybe this will be another lover’s fantasy in the future—I’m ready!

My Rules for the Silent Voyeur

Let Me Choose My Lover

If you were joining in on the fun, of course, I would want to choose our third together. But if it’s just me, I want to pick the man who is going to pleasure me, even if this is your fantasy to watch.

Let Things Unfold Naturally

This is individual to every woman, but I don’t want a guy showing up at my door and heading straight to the bedroom. I want some drinks and conversation, flirting and foreplay. My partner can be a part of that or come in later if he wants.

Don’t Direct the Action

No back-seat drivers so to speak when I’m fucking another man in front of you. I want all thoughts, expectations, boundaries, and fantasies discussed before. When I’m having at it, I want no distractions.

Save Feedback for Later

I don’t want any comments, good or bad, until after the other man leaves. I love the idea of snuggling in bed talking about our shared experience, from different perspectives, in private.

Show Me How much You Enjoyed It

If living out your fantasy was successful, I don’t just want to hear that—I want the turn on to transfer to our intimacy. I want this sideshow to breathe new life into our sex sessions.

Does the idea of watching your lover have sex with another man turn you on?

Tell us what you think!

Leave a Reply

avatar

Threesome Tips is a resource for men and women interested in threesomes and finding new partners online. We cover everything from where to find threesomes to the morning after. Our readers enjoy Q & A columns, site reviews, threesome advice, polls, and more.

Our free newsletter is bi-monthly digest of recent posts here at Threesome Tips. If you would like to join our mailing list please subscribe.

Copyright © 2020 Threesome Tips

To Top