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Help! I’m Having My First MMF Threesome!

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Dear Jamie,

What turns me on more than anything in the world is the thought of my girlfriend Anita getting fucked by another man. It’s a pretty common fantasy, and Anita’s into it.

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The thought really turns her on, and we want to make it happen. Her only stipulation is that I be present and involved, an MMF threesome rather than a show where I’m just the audience. Sounds super hot, and I’ve had a few threeways in the past that were really fun.

That said, they were all FFM and I really have no idea what to do with a naked man and how to be sexual with one. I do want to turn Anita on and indulge her fantasies, too, and I want to be open minded, but I also have no experience and don’t want to come on too strong and scare the guy who does me this favor away.

If it’s a success we already decided we’d like to make a regular triad, so I want to do things right. How can I get comfortable? How will I know I’m doing it right? – Jeff, 27

Dear Jeff,

I love this creative solution to merge your fantasy and hers! The MMF threesome is one of my favorite ways to play, and the best ones are where both of you boys are open minded and willing to experiment with each other.

The solution to this whole scene is communication. Decide right now that you won’t stress, and you’ll let nature take it’s course with a little direction from the leading lady. Meet for drinks or iced coffees beforehand with an open discussion in mind. Communicate questions, concerns, and boundaries.

Let the other man know in advance that the threesome will involve a lot of you watching him fuck her, and also some man-to-yyman contact at her request.

Make all that clear in your online dating profile or messaging so there’s no surprise. He’ll know what he’s coming for and getting into, and isn’t expecting two Swedish blonde Double Ds in thongs and a vat of coconut oil.

Then, keep things light and take them slow. Don’t be afraid to laugh, and don’t invest too much meaning into awkward pauses or fumbling attempts that don’t work out as hoped. Try again, or move on.

If you find a man who has more experience at the MMF than you do, that can help take some of the pressure off. Then Anita can call the shots, and he can guide, while you wag your tail and do as you’re told.

Give yourself permission to have rules or boundaries—and Anita, too—and recognize they can change abruptly. At the last minute, one boyfriend couldn’t bear to carry through watching me get sodomized by his buddy from the factory. The fantasy was hot, the real deal, not. I’m glad he was open enough to say something before the deed was done. We were able to change gears to finish off more playfully with oral.

Also, don’t get hung up when your cock does things you aren’t expecting. New situations and nerves can make it rock hard when you’re not feeling the thrill, or you may lose an erection when you’re so ready you think you’ll explode. That will sort itself out and is totally normal. I like to keep a few great porn mags nearby that might help restore order, or just take a break for a cold drink or a massage.

Let me know how it goes!

Love,
Jamie

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