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How to Curb Your Pre-Threesome Anxiety

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Threesomes cause everyone a little anxiety, whether that’s the pre-threesome jitters or worrying about coming too fast with two hotties.

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Every man I’ve been with in a one-on-one has copped to having performance anxiety at some point in their life, so it’s understandable that being with more than one woman would cause just a little little stress.

Tips and Tricks to Help with Threesome Anxiety

Get the goods beforehand. What I mean by this is to have those talks about boundaries and limits before you meet for fun times. This might be in back-and-forth messages on a dating site, or during a dinner or coffee shop meetup.

Knowing what someone wants, likes, and absolutely doesn’t want or like, will help prevent a move that will cause everyone performance anxiety, women included.

Do your thang before the threesome. Most people have a routine they engage in before a big date or event that helps them to relax, as well as boost their confidence.

For me, this means a trip to the gym, a healthy snack, and a lay down on my bed while playing relaxing music. Your routine might be involve loud rock music and air guitar, or a hike through the woods. Do what makes you feel cool and calm.

Phone a friend. Sometimes my dating anxiety is so bad, I need to call a close friend to get the “talk down.” It can be a little embarrassing, but good friends understand and won’t mind the juicy reason you’re calling.

Talking through your anxiety and worry can be helpful, even without specific suggestions, just be sure to practice discretion when discussing the individuals or couple involved.

Be genuine. Most people feel excited and nervous about threesomes, especially if it’s their first one, so it’s okay to say that you are. I’ve found that sharing my feelings in this situation to be a real ice breaker.

It’s easier to tell others that you’re feeling a bit anxious, than to spend the rest of the night trying to act cool as the cucumber you aren’t. Telling your truth is always a good policy.

If worst comes to worst and you have way too much anxiety or worse, a panic attack, it’s okay to change your mind ( but hopefully not last minute, as you likely won’t get a second chance if you cancel right before you’re supposed to meet.)

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