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How to Nail Your Role Play Part in Threesomes

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Role play is an easy way to add excitement, kink, novelty, fun, and zest to your sex life. It’s something that works for all genders and all spectrums of vanilla to kink because it could literally be anything. There are no limits in your imagination, and you can become anyone, anything, anytime.

Role play is amazing because it can make use of the visual culture surrounding someone’s kink, or it can open up an unlimited wardrobe of costumes that add sizzle to sex.

Role play with threesomes is even better than for twosomes because several characters interact with each other, allowing for an even wider range of scenarios.

But if you’re not sure if you’re Adrian Brody or Joaquin Phoenix, and don’t think you’ll be up for an Oscar anytime soon, you might not be as confident as you want to be when playing doctor or detective.

How to Nail Your Part and Have Fun

Don’t be so serious.

Relax, and stop taking it so seriously. Even if your partners really get into their roles, it’s all about having fun. The more you embrace the fun aspect of this, the less pressure you’ll put on yourself, and the better you’ll pull off your part.

Just as with sex itself, being at ease and focusing on pleasing your partners makes you a lot less worried about your own performance. You aren’t a method actor or a Hollywood giant. You’re a fun and playful guy having a great time with your lovers.

Practice makes perfect.

Anything is awkward the first time you do it, whether you’re trying to mince onions or drive a stick shift. You learn as you go and get better at it with practice.

The more you role play, the more confident you’ll feel about using your imagination and getting into character. You’ll also find out whether you like playing a more submissive or dominant part.

Understand your partners’ expectations.

Communication is key to any great sexual experience. It’s not a bad idea to share in advance what each participant will find sexy and fun and what might not be important, or even disturbing.

Knowing whether your partners want a lot of “back story” or if they’re just hoping for a quick dress-up and dress-down will save you some stress and give you an idea of what is expected of you.

Use props and visual aids to bring it alive.

If you aren’t really sure what to say and do, come prepared with a great outfit and some props that can bring your role to life. Your costume can do a lot of the talking for you.

Chill out with a drink first.

You don’t want to show up bombed because you’ll really screw up your lines, but relaxing beforehand with one drink can help you worry less. If you don’t drink but prefer to smoke weed or do yoga to relax, try that.

Learn from the best.

The whole idea of role play is to try on different personas, and the best way to get into it is a little research in advance.

How can you act like a plumber, a cop, a ruthless CEO, or a gigolo if you have no idea what they’re like? Watch a movie or a how-to video to get a clue.

It’s okay to laugh.

I often start laughing in the middle of a serious line delivery, or when I see a lover enter in a funny costume. Instead of feeling as if you’re ruining a scene, recognize that laughing means you’re comfortable and having fun.

Have you tried role playing in a threesome? Share your story in the comments!

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