This is a bit of a controversial edge to a unique subject, and it must be understood and practiced with the HIGHEST level of nuance and care.
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The wrong way is not the way I advocate for this subject of intimacy. Be careful not to misinterpret what I am about to say because you feel like being lazy or shitty.
If your partner slaps you in the face for some dumb shit you did because you made some massive asinine assumptions, don’t come sliding into my comments section with your whining and moaning about how embarrassing it is to go into work with your lover’s handprint on your face. Wasn’t me acting reckless outside my boundaries, I never been whooped upside my headpiece for trying to sneak a piece of asscheek! I always err on the side of a cautious and care-filled gentleman, so I don’t ever get my cute little face slapped!
There is a way of doing things without really having to do things… but it’s because you’re SO GOOD at doing certain things, that you don’t necessarily have to do the other things in the traditional fashion that someone else might have to do that same thang thang. YET, NEVER mistake this rare and precious level of freedom as some moment of infinite irresponsibility, god no!
What I’m being very delicate in trying to say is this: in certain levels of connection in threesomes, certain things don’t have to be asked. It just HAPPENS. In a threesome where everyone has established trust and bonding and honesty between each other, with each further kiss and each extra touch and every extra look into the eyes and beyond, more and more intimacy is built. In these moments, not every single sexual act is communicated clearly and completely like normally communicated.
If, during threesome negotiations, someone says, “absolutely NO ANAL,” then do NOT try and stick it in if things get really hot and sexy in the middle of the fun. That’s just wrong. And you probably will never have a threesome with that person again. But, (and this is a big ass but) if, in the middle of things, the person changes their mind and emphatically and clearly signals, preferably verbally but possibly physically, for them to change their mind and do something you didn’t expect, then heeeeey! Good work on satisfying past the point of pleasure’s intentions.
There may be new places that people want to go because of such erotic largesse. There’s extra hands and legs and lips and tits and dicks around… maybe people feel like trying something they thought they didn’t, before they got there. It’s possible and it’s happened.
The point I want to make most clear, is how DELICATE and RESPECTFUL a person has to be if and maybe when this happens in a threesome scenario. If someone wants to do double penetration, anal, the Eiffel Tower when they thought they didn’t, then do your best to step up and make it happen passionately and positively… if you feel like you want to do it too, and only then.
Don’t accept or create pressure. Sometimes, people are so wild and pleased, that they just want things to happen to them and not talk about it so much. If you’re there, hold respectful reservation in one hand, and hold raw eroticism in the other. Then rub both into the moment with righteous reckless reason, and enjoy the real magic that comes from letting the intimacy naturally flow where it feels right… silently.
In love,
Addi Stewart
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