You’re best opportunity to make your threesome fantasy happen is when you’re already in a relationship. Sure, it’s possible to find a couple of hot women at the club to go home with or find two single ladies online willing to join you for a threeway hookup, but it’s not as likely as opening up your existing relationship.
Now comes the tricky part—broaching the subject with your partner. Some men will keep their group-sex fantasies to themselves forever, worried about the resulting conflict or flat-out rejection that may result. And for some, this is cool… a fantasy can be almost as good as the reality, sometimes better.
For those of you who haven’t asked your girlfriend, here are some signs that she may be open to the idea already.
She’s had a threesome before. Lots of women experiment with group sex and have a been-there, done-that attitude towards it once they find something serious. If you have a solid relationship, she may feel safe to try it again, and likely enjoy it more.
She points out sexy women to you. Does your girlfriend notice other beautiful women when you’re out and about? A woman who feels comfortable in her own sexuality will not feel threatened by another woman. This is necessary for her to feel safe to share.
She is sexually confident and kinky. A woman who is very vanilla or shy in the bedroom probably won’t touch a threesome (never say never) and may need to broaden her horizons with you first. Start exploring!
She watches porn and talks about it. Women have fantasies too, and some of us like to watch them with other players before trying them ourselves. Find out what she watches and maybe you can make a deal to indulge each other’s fantasies.
She has online dating experience. If she already understands this process, she might find it fun to just browse with you, pretend until she’s ready. A niche site like CouplesDating.com is used by poly people and adventurous singles looking to meet for threesome hookups.
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